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My elder loved one does not have Ca of the lung.
So get a second opinion.
Now, medical science is coming up with a vaccine to wipe out certain cancer tumors. The vaccine will be starting soon in the human trial studies.
I was simply passing forward a gift from the past, where I was given scripts. Pass one on in the future, please. They are not hard to do for otbers!
I'm not saying this will be the case for your father. His whole situation and prognosis may be quite different. I'm just saying that sometimes people accept sad facts more easily than we might expect. I hope things go well for you.
My son-in-law’s grandmother was diagnosed with a fast growing, inoperable cancer (I can’t remember what kind), and within 6 months she was gone. During those 6 months she elected to have treatment which made her very sick and was hospitalized several times from the side effects. I don’t know if her last months would have been better if she had decided not to get treatment.
Several very good suggestions have already been given to you about how to tell him. Does he have the mental capacity to understand and weigh treatment options?
I pray that you sleep well tonight. Years ago I read in a morning devotional something I have never forgotten: The best bridge betwee hope and despair is often a good night’s sleep. Hugs to you.
Depending upon your dad's cognitive skills AND his level of anxiety about things in general, I'd wait to tell him all this until the day before the appointment. Maybe even the morning of the appointment. YOU are the best judge of how your father deals with this kind of news. If he is the kind of person who gets agitated, or if he's going to ask you a million questions that YOU don't have answers to, delay telling him until the day of the appointment.
However, if your dad still mostly has his cognitive skills, likes to research on the internet and such, tell him in advance so that he can have HIS questions ready for the doc.
Are you needing to tell him you can't care for him any longer? That's never, ever easy, but know that no good parent wants to see their child give up their life for them. Telling my mom she could no longer stay in her home ( because of my inability to keep her safe there) was the hardest single thing I've ever done.
You are in my thoughts, dear.