By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Speak to the DON at the nursing home and express your gratitude to them for caring for your mother and say that you don’t know how you could possibly manage caring for her at home. Do ask them what suggestions they have for preventing these falls from occurring again.
I think that you will be able to put your mind at ease knowing that they will hold a spot for your mom at the nursing home.
Wishing you and your mom all the best.
The NH has given me no indication they'll kick her out. I just have a bad feeling and I know they must be tired of all her falls and not being able to stop them.
She is just not gonna listen when they tell her not to get up on her own.
The thing is, she is still very strong, but her brain can't motor plan which is why she is weak and can't get off the floor. She has the muscle strength to do it but her brain can't tell her body. And she THINKS she can still do stuff.
If a wheelchair you recline it a bit, tilting the back a little. This makes it a bit more difficult to get out of the chair.
If she is in a regular chair reclining it a bit will also help and adjusting it so it is not as easy to get it upright. (my daughter used to direct my Husband into a rocker recliner chair that they had he could not get out of that chair until someone helped)
Placing a chair alarm helps but it can be disruptive.
Placing a chair right up against a table will slow someone down. Trying to get out of the chair you have to push it back and a movement like that should be noticed by staff.
There is also the great possibility that the broken hip will definitely slow her down and depending on how she does in rehab she may be past the trying to get up on her own.
I don't believe she will be getting up on her own now though. And maybe never. It's sad.
Generally Independent Living will not have staff come and help residents. So if mom is falling or depending on staff to help her then she really is not "Independent' and should probably be in Assisted Living.
If she is in AL and is not waiting for the help to arrive they may determine that she is a danger to herself and needs a higher level of care. They may not "kick her out" but they may suggest either Skilled Nursing or Memory Care. (is there a diagnosis of cognitive decline or dementia that might make her living in independent or Assisted more of a risk?)
If you signed a contract you may want to read your entire packet. They often state the reasons someone may be asked to leave.
The important thing for you is NOT to start upsetting apple carts at this time. Your Mom is going to need at least a month of time for rehab I would think. They are unlikely to "hold a bed" but they are likely to take her back if they have a bed, and I would assume that is the case.
Do not contact them until they contact you.
And once Mom is better it is important that you not accept her into your own care and home, even "temporarily" (because it won't be): not even with promises of "we can get you help " (they can't) and "we can make this work" (they won't).
Make certain that you let them know at discharge planning time that you are in no wise able to take your Mom into your care EVER even temporarily--not physically able, not mentally able, not emotionally able.
They will then have to find placement at her current facility (preferred) or a new one.
They do rehab at her facility, which is how she ended up there back in December after having COVID. I don't know if that is "enough" rehab, but I'm hoping if they send her back there for rehab it will help her keep her bed. It's scary because we're kind of in a gray area right now since we're applying for Medicaid next month.
I will be sure to say absolutely not to her coming to my home. Thank you for reminding me of that.