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Not enough info here to understand why it's happening, who is selling these things, what they are, what happens to the proceeds.
I just pray I do not live that long.
It takes lots of money to hire Caregivers like $15-$20.
So, for 24 7 Care,
If you're lucky to find help at only $9 an hr it would cost you $1,500 a week, over $6,000 a month so if you have to pay $18 an hr instead of $9 then it's costing $3,000 a week, over $12,000 a Month.
I would think it would be nice for someone to take her out while this is going on or let her be in her room to not upset her.
Or make the sell and arrange for the big noticeable items to be gotten at a time when she's napping or out of the house.
Maybe they are downsizing and trying to get things done before she dies so it won't be so stressful for them after the fact.
You might mention to them what you were told about how she feels when it's happening and maybe they'll be more discrete.
Prayers.
However, this may be necessary to prepare for sale of the home, freeing up space in the home, or raising funds to support the person with dementia.
I cannot say it is cruel unless these things are done by the POA intentionally to distress the owner.
If you suspect maltreatment, then that should be reported. Emotionally or financially abusing a person to whom one has a fiduciary responsibility warrants investigation by Adult Protective Services.
If the agent is abusing their position and selling off items and pocketing the proceeds for themselves and not for the benefit of the person they represent - notify the authorities of possible elder abuse.
We had to do this when having a garage sell for my MIL. She wanted to hang out and help manage it but we could tell it was very distressing for her. She had short-term memory issues so for our own sanity we didn't want to have to re-explain it every day of the sale so we had her off-site during the entire event. Whatever it takes. I wish you peace in your heart.
GG was in and out of a NH and asking mother to start liquidating her estate while she was still alive and able to make decisions.
She'd tell mom one day to mail a picture off to some relative, Mom would do it and in a couple days GG would be wondering where that picture went? What made mom think she could go around giving away her stuff?
GG had quite a collection of lovely rings. Granddad gifted her expensive and beautiful rings for any and all occasions. GG insisted mom give those to the granddaughters. She did and yep, a few days later, she sees one on OS's hand and is freaked out b/c she thought she'd been robbed.
Finally, we talked mom into simply putting things in big moving boxes and keeping a good inventory. Nothing else was given away until after GG passed.
I KNOW that GG wanted to maintain control to the very end, and she did, but we learned the lesson to wait until after the LO has passed before you start giving away their 'stuff'.