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In so far as I understand, you can force the sale of a home jointly owned. That is to say, when two people own a home together, any one of them can force a sale. That would be the wiser course here, now you are marrying. If your Sister has embezzled money while serving as POA for her mother then APS should have been called; I don't know if it is too late.
You need a lawyer now to ascertain the laws of your state regarding sale of real property and as it pertains to you and your Mom.
Good luck.
https://www.tdd-law.com/blog/how-force-sale-when-other-people-share-ownership-house/
Sell the house.
Never mix money & family again.
Report sister to authorities for potential financial elder abuse. Leave it with them.
Be a visitor for your Mom.
Your Mom may part own the house but this does not mean she or her POA can demand you become Mom's hand's-on carer.
Sounds like angry talk from your sister. Some crazy solution she came up because she's spent the AL fees? Stay out of her drama. Let her deal with the consequences of her actions.
I’ll be a dissenting voice in this and propose a radical notion. Talk to your sister, extend a gesture of kindness and concern and ask to make a time to talk things over with her. Get her side on things and hear her out. Then you can do likewise. Listen with sibling love and concern to each other. Siblings are the one subset that has the longest shared common history more than any other. That’s important. On ones death bed money and deeds and whether one “won” or not is not what folks think of. Take a caring humane open minded approach and perhaps you’ll find more in common than you realized or wanted to realize. Stuff that money can’t buy,... a radical idea but a worthy one that while it doesn’t work if only one side is invested in truth and authenticity yet you won’t know til you try. Worse case is it doesn’t work out and then you can approach it in a more business style fashion but at least you’ll have done a good noble thing you can say you did on your end. What I’m trying to convey is grief at how family ties in this society are devalued over $ and power and who has a right to what. When in reality those things are passing and more often than not once you have them lose their luster and pale in comparison to true family love and relationships that is what when it works it’s worth more than it’s weight in gold
What did your sister change her mind about? The price?
Selling the house: whether or not you can sell it without your co-owner's agreement may depend on what the terms were on which you bought it. Anything in writing about that?
If your mother is unable to act, the other co-signatory may be your sister if the POA includes the authority to dispose of real property on your mother's behalf. What does it say in the documentation?
You allege that your sister has taken money from your mother. That is an extremely serious allegation, of an abuse of POA and financial abuse of a vulnerable elder by a person in a position of trust. So I hope you can prove it.
What this all boils down to is the original falling out between you and your sister. What happened, and how might it be resolved?
On the face of it, selling the house and using the funds to continue your mother's living at the ALF where she has been for four years seems the simplest answer and the one most likely to be in your mother's best interests - it ensures continuity of care and environment for her, at least for the time being. How much time would the funds buy your mother, roughly, do you estimate?
This will make your sister have to account for mom's money.
If mom is in need of care, you can also tell APS that your sister is threatening to abandon your mom at your home. It doesn't matter who owns a house, they can't just come and go as an owner. Imagine if that was the case, people would end up with their landlords parent or some such craziness.
I would put it in writing that your mom can not move into the house and then file the complaint.
Sigh.
I think the first thing you should do would be to contact a lawyer that can give you the correct info. Either one that deals with real estate or an elder care attorney.
And I also agree that your sister should be reported for stealing money.
APS, Area Agency on Aging would be a place to start.
Your sister sounds like the classic alpha-female using intimidation tactics because she's sure you'll fold out of fear of her and become the caregiver to your mom. Please excuse me if I speak plainly. I say call that bitch's bluff. She will have to formally evict you from the home you live in. That means go to court and get a sheriff to serve you with eviction papers. If she plans on dropping mom off next month, let her know now that if she does you will put mom in the car and drop her off at the ER in your town's hospital, because you've made it clear that you will not be her caregiver. What happens then is your sister gets in trouble because as her POA she's responsible for your mom's welfare and for finding accommodations for her.
Talk to a lawyer and apply for guardianship.
One more word of advice!
Don't waste your time responding to people on this site that are flat out rude!!
You most certainly can take there advice into consideration, but some people just like to stir the pot and you won't get anywhere.
Never get into a pissing contest with a skunk!
Thank you so much for this good advice. Such a great reminder for myself.
Again, thank you for good advice.