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OK, to start with you don't become a POA when someone is loopy. You have to be competent to appoint someone POA. Are you certain he did not become temporary guardian or temporary conservator as the suggestion of someone in Social Services and with their help? That is to say, do you KNOW what he was appointed, and when?
You cannot ask for an accounting of anything. POA doesn't have to share any information with ANYONE. What they DO have to do is keep meticulous records in case the court investigates them. This is a Fiduciary Responsibility.
You cannot get a copy of the will, either. The executor, when you Mother dies, has a certain amount of time to let all beneficiaries know if they scheduled to inherit.
If your Mother has left you and another sibling out of her will , and has TOLD you, it seems to me that you know where you stand with her. She has in fact LET you know where you stand. So quite honestly there isn't any questions of anything. It seems as though your Mom has some reasons of her own for doing this. Why not ask her.
How do you know that money is missing. You seem to have no access to anything in order to know anything.
If you suspect that there is abuse of your Mom's money by her POA son, then you have a right to report this to APS which will investigate. I don't think that will make you any more POPULAR with these folks but it may ease your mind that no one is abusing your Mom's finances, which will likely be needed for her care.
Wishing you well.
If your mother made her decisions while mentally competent, her decisions are hers. She may have needed a health care POA and general durable POA when she was ill. Those documents are signed by several witnesses, not just the POA. The POAs become "activated" when certain conditions are met.
If you are concerned where HER money went, ask the brother who presumably has the general durable POA (that's for finances and legal decisions.) If , after checking with the POA, you think there is financial misappropriation, you should contact an attorney or adult protective services for advice on how to investigate that as a case of potential elder abuse.
Yes, a child can become health care POA or general durable POA by designation from the parent, and the siblings don't need to be "told." They usually are, though, so everyone knows who is responsible for these roles. Those roles carry a lot of responsibility and often require a lot of time and work.
No, you cannot see a copy of her will without her permission. When she passes, the estate will be probated, and her will will dictate who receives anything left. She can leave her property to whomever she chooses, even to a charity. She has no obligation to leave anything to her children.
It sort of sounds like your mom's inability to act for herself has resolved. A brain tumor doesn't necessarily mean she's incapable of making decisions. If she can still understand the legal issues and she tells you that your brother is her power of attorney and is getting all of her estate upon her death, then that's that.
I would call her lawyer if she has one and raise your questions with them. If your mom still has legal capacity, she can make decisions for herself- including this one.
I'm sorry. It sounds like a very painful situation.