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I found a care home and told him where he was going to be living when he left rehab.
If you can get her admitted to the hospital for 3 midnight stays, then she will qualify for rehab and then you can get assistance in finding a place for her and the Medicaid application. Baker Act will meet the 3 midnight's if you push them to keep her. Make sure she is admitted not on observation, it doesn't count.
You are a good brother and a good son, your sister that is caring for your mom is awesome, be sure and tell her, because caregiving is a thankless job.
Best of luck, this is such a hard time for the caregivers to place their loved one. May God give you and sister strength and wisdom for this journey.
I would also ask the lawyer to file for emergency guardianship to be granted to you. Your sister sounds wiped out and you are the only one left with some energy and plenty of reasoning ability.
Have your mom tested for a UTI. This can very often be contributing to her acting out.
She will need an antibiotic. Urgent Cares can test her and get her started on the antibiotic. If she tests positive for one there is nothing you can do better for your sister than getting mom started on the med.
Good luck with the application and let us know how things are going.
Great that you have that appointment set up.
We do have an appointment with a geriatric psychiatrist, but they canceled this week and re-scheduled for mid July. Meanwhile as I write this my mom is hallucinating, accusing us that we will kill her and that she's afraid. She also accused my sister of trying to steal what very little money she has left in the bank.
I will watch my mom this weekend to give my sister a break. I also will be initiating the medicaid application process.
Any help on how to calm my mom for the following symptoms:
Constantly crying and afraid one of us will kill her.
Always trying to run away.
Says horrible things to me and my sister and about our siblings, my wife, and practically everyone in the family. Always negative. We're at wits end trying to find ways to re-direct her to thinking positive. This is the most exhausting and difficult trait that my sister and I had to deal with.
I guess my sister and I just have to be strong and hope that after the psychiatrist sees mom we can move forward.
Thank you for your time.
Tell you uncaring siblings when you have a meeting which you need to have quickly but they will have to live with the decisions ya'll make. They must not love their mother.
You sister can’t do this any longer and you don’t want to due to familial obligations. It’s time to fish or cut bait. Send registered letters to all the do-nothing sibs and tell them it’s time to place Mom. You will entertain their suggestions but will not change your mind. Sister’s life depends on placing Mom. Knowing Mom qualifies for Medicaid is not enough. You need to apply for it. Research facilities and get the ball rolling. My mom’s facility applied for Medicaid for her and got her accepted in record time. Do it now before something traumatic happens to your sister.
Give us examples of the major excuses? Did someone promise her to never send her to a nursing home? Did someone promise to take care of her the rest of her life no matter what and thus keep her out of a nursing home.
Whose real needs are really being addressed? Her needs or the needs of family members?
How about call a meeting that you inform everyone to with the understanding that if you don't attend unless for an extremely good reason that you will just have to live with and support whatever decision is made by who attends? An extremely good reason like a serious injury or near death of your spouse or child or the meltdown of an autistic child.
You can't let a few hold the others hostage while your mom's care is put on hold and your sister who is doing so much is about to collapse.
Did you know that about 40% of caregivers die before the person they are caring for do? Tell that to your benevolent siblings who never can attend a meeting.