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Please explain to your mom that because your brother and his wife are both on SSI, they can get by just fine. They do not have to pay for health insurance because they're covered on Medicaid, their low income makes them eligible for things like food stamps, rent assistance, and utility assistance.
In all likelihood, they have more disposable income between the two of them than she does. Explain this to her in these terms.
Also, suggest to her that if she wants to continue with the financial assistance to your brother, that he and his wife should also be giving her proof of a clean drug test. Just to make sure.
Explain to her about the Medicaid lookback period. She might not understand about it.
However, I would probably direct mom to home chef or some other prepared meals service. If she has money to give away she can buy her own food.
If she needs facility care in the future and runs out of money, well, choices have consequences and you are not obligated to be her solution because her choices have left her with terrible consequences.
My mom always favored my brothers, would give them anything and everything, yet when she needed help I was the only one around. Oh well, I don't have to account for others, only myself and that goes for every person on the planet.
You do what you are willing to do and don't do what makes you feel bitter or resentful. They don't care, you can't care more about her then she does, it never works out well.
You know he's spending money on drugs, so reasoning with him about how he'd be ruining her chances to get Medicaid is pointless. You just have to take over all her finances, get guardianship if need be, and protect her.