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A Decree of Judicial Separation has three main effects:
The spouses are no longer obliged to live together
The Court can divide the matrimonial assets (including property), just as it can in divorce
The Decree has an impact upon your Will, just as it does in divorce. This means your spouse no longer takes any benefit unless a new Will is made specifically stating that is to be the case
If your marriage has come under strain because of dementia but you do not want a divorce, a Judicial Separation could be the best way to proceed. It is a more amicable approach, which may be important if you feel the effects of dementia are not your spouse’s fault. Yet it still enables you to protect your finances.
A Judicial Separation may also be an option if you are going through a divorce and your ex-partner gets dementia, or already suffers with dementia.”
This is from a legal site in the UK. Don’t know if it would apply here.
Ok, how are the Power of Attorneys for the couple? Time for both POA's to step in and handle the financial aspects for their own parent.
As geannegibbs had asked above, can't they sell the house without being divorced? Divorced isn't inexpensive, as both parties need to obtain their own Divorce Attorneys, and with dementia in the picture that can complicate the situation.
As others have said, it would be a good idea to consult an elder attorney in the county where the house is located or where they currently live.
Um. What happens to the old man if he is still living when your mother, God forbid, passes away?
I appreciate your very natural feelings at the prospect of your steps walking off with a 50% legacy from an estate to which your mother was by far the majority contributor. Nuts to that, sure, I understand. And of course you are right to be alert to possible goings-on meanwhile.
But all self-interested motivations aside, what about the prospect of an elderly man who has been married for 24 years being left homeless and destitute on the passing of his wife? What protections would your mother have wanted to be in place for her husband should he become her widower, perhaps? (Come to that: why didn't she create any?)
I'm sure you won't, but don't let your displeasure with his children's behaviour make you callous towards him, will you?
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