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Choosing one of the inexpensive products such as the one casole recommended are not going to break the bank and seem easy to install, I would opt for that and and look to upgrade in the future if you find it acceptable.
When they are confronted with a new situation, sometimes they can't make sense of it or even part of it. Not knowing what they are supposed to do can create serious bouts of combativeness.
My DH can no longer shower himself. I shower him. Every time, I have to calmly and slowly relate every step. "I'm going to turn on the water now. I'm going to spray your feet. I'm going to soap your legs," etc. etc. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And even then, he still doesn't understand what is going on or why or what comes next. I suspect the same thing would happen with your mother and the bidet.
I wish you luck.
a) Original bidets (I’ve got one) are more or less washbasins at a height you can straddle, looking backwards to the cistern. I don’t think it would meet your needs. They aren’t designed to dispose of feces – in fact the original purpose was a wash after sex.
b) Bidet attachments can fit onto a toilet, and squirt water upwards to help clean. Your mother would probably need to wipe, and sit fairly wide. These were popular during the Covid toilet paper shortage.
c) The Japanese developed bidets that also squirt upwards, water and then warm air, are very expensive and also comprehensive, sounded great but I have no experience with them. Definitely 'look ma, no hands'.
I’d say find some brand names and prices, and then look for user ratings on one that looks like it would help you.
As for the feces problem with a regular bidet, a friend had a serious difficulty when visitors didn’t know how to use one and thought it was for cleaning off feces. Their feces built up inside the drain, stank, and may have needed a plumber to clean. I don’t know because I was so grossed out I didn’t want to hear any more about it!!!
If the companions are not willing to assist, then aides that are cna level will be needed to physically clean.
I have no experience with bidets... but much with stubborn elders. If she doesn't like the feel of the bidet or like change she won't use it. Be a waste of money + she will still need actual hands-on assistance in the bathroom.