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I'd only be guessing, but it sounds like blood supply issues to the frontal lobe (personality).
What tests did her doctor perform to ascertain "she was fine"?
An MRI/CT scan might provide some supporting evidence.
If that checks out, then perhaps a psychologist could assist with cognitive behavior therapy - the cessation of work may have been traumatic, leaving her without purpose/identity.
Many PCPs slough off the possibility of a younger patient suffering from dementia without administering a cognition test, aka a MoCa test which is pretty short and simple. It will give you a baseline to see where she's at now on a scale from 1-30. See if you can get her tested.
This isn't about whether she should have or should not have moved in with you....but about what's going on here! A person shouldn't change their personality overnight and nobody worries about it!
Go with your gut. Don't give up till you get an answer. The TIA could have been TIAs and they could have caused cognitive impairment which is what you're seeing. Good luck!
I have wanted her to move here for years when my son was young. All of a sudden she couldn't seem to handle working and wanted to retire (which is reasonable since she is 66). I don't think she managed her money well(she said she couldn't afford to live on her own. She has looked at places near us but she thinks they are too expensive.
All I did was give her the option to move with us and she wanted to do it. I didn't force her.
She had all the tests done, she has high BP and cholesterol but on meds. She has had a TIA which is why I am concerned. I have tried to get her to talk to someone (psychologist) but she ends up quitting it. Yes, she does rotate from being active during the day to a different person at night. Some days she seems herself and other days she doesn't at all.
Do you know any of Moms former fellow employees? If so contact them and ask if they had seen any changes in her before her retirement? The hoarding is a problem especially if new. Medicare asks that u have a physical yearly. Tell her doctor you want labs done to rule out any physical problems. A thyroid not working correctly will cause hormonal problems. If the labs find no problems then I suggest a CT scan or MRI to rule out any brain changes. Go with that gut feel. Then you can go from there.
If everything is normal, maybe Mom would be better on her own. She was independent for years now she is living with people. Big changes in her life.
Just think that your priority now is not mothering your mother, but mothering your son. And fostering independence for your mother.
Wishing you the best of luck going forward, and hope you find a good solution.