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I had heard the justice system was a joke but you have to experience it pers
My aunt still is not convinced anything is wrong; little does she know that she might be discharged from the nursing home since the bill isn't being paid. (Per social worker at nursing home I can't be told anything since I am not POA. She is not convinced about Kathy; if she can fool a younger person, a professional,
imagine what she is doing to my aunt!
Nor are her other bills being paid(cable was left on at her house, now there is a huge bill there) although Kathy's are sure getting paid!
She told my aunt the court hearing is "something about her house"; I realize she has her totally brainwashed. It's called undue influence and there are some very interesting articles written by people in law or psychology on how an abuser gains power over someone - isolating them, convincing them only THEY care, poisoning their relationships against other people.
Anyway, I am bring a couple of family members to the hearing; please keep us in your prayers. I want to get this parasite away from my aunt. Her going to jail would be a huge bonus, but not much hope of that.
Chemkrd, this response is in no way directed to you personally. It sounds as if you are doing the best you can under the circumstances. Your aunt is fortunate to have such a caring niece! Please keep the police informed about this Kathy. With persistence, perhaps they will take action that will keep her from doing this to someone else? Your immediate concern, of course, is the safety of your aunt...and her precious pet.
It would also enable you to say to your aunt "did you tell her she could borrow this much?"
Another thing that didn't occur to me 'til later is how foolish your aunt must feel. Listening to programmes about boiler room scams, a recurring theme is that people keep feeding them, and hate going to the police about them, because they feel so ashamed of having been taken in. The angrier you are with Kathy, rather than exasperated with your aunt, the easier it will be for her to stop feeling she was complicit in being defrauded and stop defending her abuser.
Unless, of course, Kathy can show you this 'permission' in writing. No? Didn't think so...
Does anyone have experience with the legal system for elder abuse? The county we're in takes it very very seriously as this is a very poor area and the elderly are a popular target. There is a special police unit for elder abuse and 2 detectives that work exclusively on it.
That being said, there are bank statements showing she paid her son's mortgage (my aunt's house is paid off), property taxes on a vacation home and all sorts of personal expenses from my aunt's account. Maybe not even a dime on my aunt, who says, "oh, I owe her a lot. I TOLD her she could borrow some money! She has thrown her lot in with Kathy and it is going to be hard to get her to understand how bad it has gotten.
Thanks for all the input; it definitely helps to not feel alone. Whistle blowers are often treated badly, that is a fact.
when it comes to what damages Kathy has done in my opinion? Always keep her involved in her situations? Or you/.. won't be any different than "Kathy" it seems?
The sooner you start putting a stop to it the better. I'm am currently dealing with a simular situation but now both my parents are gone. The new will, said it was to be left to the grandchildren, but a relative came in & took it all by abusing their POA. Now it's even harder to fight.
denounced a longtime friend (a Catholic deacon) saying that he was taking advantage of her! So she can no longer see him.
I guess the best defense is a good offense, right?
Over the years she has refused to turn in other people who were stealing from her; I had my hand on the phone and she begged me not to. She is way too trusting and forgiving; a truly wonderful person who is very vulnerable.
The "incompetence" was just an assessment done at the nursing home. I don't think it's the case although she is NOT making good decisions right now.