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Your Mom's sister is probably in a panic thinking if her sister has dementia, then that means maybe she will get it, too, which is not always the case. My Mom was like that about her sister who had died in her 50's from cancer, my Mom obsessed over that even in her 90's, never thinking that none of her other sisters came down with that type of cancer.
Something that gets her out of the house? Where sis can say, mom I have to make a stop here to pick up some paperwork?
Make sure that you send the office a bullet pointed list of your concerns before the appointment. Sis shoukd take a copy of it with her. Emphasize that mom is not recognizing her deficits.
I wouldn't expect much out of this first appointmnent.
Most neurologists will so a mini mental status exam ( what day is today, who is the president, etc) and have patient draw a clock with hands pointing to a certain time.
You might get a recommendation for further testing, Mri, etc. Which mom might refuse.
If this appointme t doesn't work out, you simply wait for her to fall (that's sounds awful, I know).
When she falls, you call 911. You let the hospital admit her ( don't let them "hold for observation"). Admission is key.
Then you get a full work up at the hospital and perhaps rehab.
Will aunt come for a visit?
If your mom still has capacity, then she can refuse to go to any doc she chooses not to see.
You, as a family, can also refuse to provide whatever is keeping her "independent". If she's endangering herself or others, you can call APS and report her as a vulnerable adult.
There are many folks on this site who are "waiting for a crisis", so that they can get their parent the help they need.
But to get your aunt on board, she's probably going to have to see the situation up close and personal.
Lying to your parent never feels good. Think of it as a fib to protect her well -being.
I told my mom neuropsych appointment was to obtain a baseline measurement
You don't "ask" her.
Who is taking her?
Paranoia is very common in early-stage dementia. That can and does happen without any outside influence or encouragement. I'm just suggesting that even if you were able to get auntie on your side, your mother might not be any easier to deal with.
I certainly hope that this next appointment works out for you all.
If your suspicions are confirmed, then what? If the neurology clinic says more tests are needed but this looks like dementia, how will that change things for you and your sister? Mom will presumably still be resistant and paranoid.
What kind of help does she appear to need? Is she messing up her finances? (Often an early sign that something is wrong.) Does she have a fridge full of spoiled food? Is she falling? Does she wander out of her house without a destination in mind? Does she dress appropriate to the season? Does she repeat herself a lot? Is her memory poor? What kind of help would you arrange if she allowed you to arrange something? In what ways is she at risk now?
Even after a diagnosis (assuming it is dementia) she will still have the same needs and risks. Don't wait for the appointment to start reading up on ways to help those with dementia.
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