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Your MIL’s brain in broken . At some point she may forget you were the one that scheduled the bathing. Or she may get stuck and fixated on it like a broken record and complain .
Many of them get angry about their younger family member telling them what they need to do . At this stage your MIL can not recognize that she needs help . That is why she says she’s an adult and you are bossy .
If she lets the caregivers give her a shower , that’s a win , take it .
My mom would get in her moods and be uncooperative with me but was very cooperative with helpers from the agency that I used for her.
Mom loved her helpers and they enjoyed being there for her because she was cooperative with them.
Occasionally the helpers would tell me how difficult other clients were compared to my mom. My mom wanted to show her best self in front of others.
I am sorry that you are going through this. Wishing you peace.
my dad just tries to avoid whatever the aides want to help him with (say showering) but my mom actually fires them for having a bad attitude when really they are there to help her as much as him.
It’s hard to be old and infirm, and it’s also hard to be the person who helps them and get no appreciation. Best wishes.
I like to remind people that the day you become a CAREGIVER you are no longer a DIL, a spouse, a girlfriend, a sister, a mother, a child. You are a CAREGIVER and you REPRESENT completely the world of loss and pain and zero control that the victim is facing.
That's how it is. You can embrace it, or you can move your senior to a caregiving situation so that you are one again able to be the DIL.