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I wasn’t surprised when AL told me my LO needed more care. Wandering was the final thing. But, my LO had other needs too.
She needed more direct supervision. Prompting her to the dining room wasn’t enough. She’d forget where was going on the way to the dining room. She resisted care, didn’t want to bathe, didn’t want to get out of bed, couldn’t engage in conversations with other residents, couldn’t remember anyone’s name, was scared and confused, FELL a lot, became incontinent, made repeated calls to me in a panic, repeated calls to me from the AL staff due to one thing or another EVERYDAY. They did not have the staff to giver her so much one one time and attention.
Two things helped my LO tremendously: Medication for anxiety and depression and MC. The change was immediate, she seemed to sense that she was safe and understood there. She needed a smaller place (secure MC) to help bring her comfort. Regular AL residents and activities were over her head. This was more on her level. At the time she was very verbal and able to read, though she couldn’t retain info. She was in a wheelchair, but could walk a little bit. It made a huge difference. MC staff knew how to care for her and I never got a call that there was a problem again, so far. When she was still verbal, she’d tell me regularly that they were good people. That was 6 years ago.
The rooms at her MC are actually very large, but, my LO spent little time there. She was usually in the halls, dining room, activity room, etc. Things like the size of her room didn’t seem to matter anymore.
If you move her, I’d try not to make a big issue about it. She may not be able to process it.
There are people at all stages of the disease in Memory Care. My mom ( completely unaware of her own deficiencies, whispers to me on video call about the "old people she helped today")
One small benefit of Memory Care in her facility, is that they have more social interaction - my mom was really isolated in Assisted Living - the staff is masked, but the residents aren't and they have group activities and all eat together, instead of having to eat alone in rooms. They restrict which staff can come in, so there's less chance of covid transmission in theory. Because they have memory problems there's just no way to enforce mask wearing or social distancing - they don't remember there IS a virus to protect themselves.
It's worked out ok, she does sometimes say she liked her "other place" better, but complains more about the food than anything else - but she's picky about that anyway.
There's lower staff/resident ratio, and supposedly have staff trained/experienced in working with dementia behaviors.
She moved to Assisted Living in March, a couple of weeks before outings and activities started getting cancelled, and then visitors stopped being allowed inside. I wish she had been able to have the experience that we promised her when we made the move - activities, and socializing there, outings with me and the grandkids, Sunday dinners at my house. Covid wrecked that plan, and I hate that I couldn't handle her here at my house, but you have you know your limitations and she safe and well cared for there, and we do connect video calls at least twice a day, and my sister calls her also. I was going to be able to social distance/mask visit on the outside deck( still no inside visitors), but the week after she moved back ( I wanted her to settle in before I visited in person, so we didn't get to do it) cases spiked up in central Texas and they locked back down. We can still do a window visit, but I haven't tried it yet - they have to keep their window closed, and she's hard of hearing - it might be more upsetting that comforting.
Many people in this forum have had to move a loved one from AL to MC so I'm sure you'll get some excellent support and advice.