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If she has a UTI that can't be cleared up--that can make her behavior unbelievable. But if she's 'physically healthy' then certainly something can be given to her to take the edge off the anger and acting out.
And yes! she needs to be in the proper facility for her level of care.
However, Medicaid holds the purse, so talk to the SW about options and under no circumstances agree to take her, even temporarily.
Ask the AL to bear with you a little longer while you get things set up. You will need to find a Medicaid facility. She is going to need to fit LTC criteria so hopefully someone will come to interview Mom.
Prayers
wish you luck !
Does she have an actual diagnosis of dementia? Did she willingly go into the AL? How long has she been there?
Your profile says you are her PoA so now you need to talk to her doctor to see if medication for aggression/anxiety would help. She needs to stay in the AL. It's not their job to "fix" her behavior, it's the PoA's responsibility.
Have you called and talked to the admins at the facility? Sometimes they can give helpful advice since they've "seen it all". At the very least call to tell them your situation and that you're working on it so they'll have more patience with it (if you haven't already done this).
It's not uncommon for someone with dementia to not recognize their own disease. It's called anosognosia.
It will be hard and stressful for a while but then once her behavior is improved, the clouds will pass. You may want to consider moving her to a facility more local to you since long-distance management often adds to the caregiving burden. I wish you success in getting through this crisis!
In your shoes, I would communicate with the SW or administration at the AL, not your mom. Ask what there plan is if she doesn't leave voluntarily. Tell them, forcefully, that living with you is not an option.
Likely they will take her to the ER and from there, the state will assume guardianship and she will be found a nursing home to stay in.