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A former co-worker helped his sick wife die, and he was locked up for six years.
Call the police or paramedics. You need help immediately.
As you know, I just went thru home hospice for my dad. He died Friday. No one was asked to log morphine and even if anyone questions how much is left, you say the liquid bottle got knocked over and spilled on the rug from his bed table or got lost or u don’t know. My family didn’t do this to my knowledge, but how would anyone know. How can they prove otherwise?
Under some circumstances, your DH would have to be very careful, because he could be accused of murder.
OP must also be careful, with whatever he’s planning for his wife’s life/death.
These feelings are individually processed. I don’t know if there is a ‘right or wrong’ way to view this. You have to find your own way in this situation.
If you are speaking 'for' your wife, then it's probably time for serious Hospice care and not in your home.
I know the 'waiting game' for someone to pass who has zero quality of life and who is also sucking the joy out of life for all people involved is horrible. One person's miserable life affecting as many as 40 other people in our family. My MIL is in Home Hospice and my DH and I have gone absolutely NOWHERE this year, waiting for that other shoe to drop. (Correction: we spent 2 hectic long weekends going to High School graduations of grandkids--but had the phones on high alert the whole time. Flew in and out of 2 cities in >3 days. NOT relaxing nor enjoyable at all.)
I cannot plan anything for my family that takes us out of cell phone range. We have ceased to even get together as a family b/c my DH is always so grouchy.. and it's due to the care they are forced to give and the incredible needs that their mother has. Chores around our house are all put off b/c MIL needs so much.
If they had put her in a NH when she fell, back in Jan-Feb, this wouldn't have gotten so insane.
If you cannot handle the EOL care for your wife, then please move her to a place where she has people who CAN. And no judgment on you, whatsoever. This doesn't mean you no longer love her...it's self preservation at its most core level.
I am not even involved in the care of my MIL, but I am growing more depressed by the week, as she drags on and on, dying so slowly. Dh retired to help take care of her and he is beyond miserable with it.
IDK how long I can take this...and like I said, I am really on the periphery of the crazy.
Your wife has a Dementia. No one knows when the end will be. Just that the Dementia will end up getting to the part of the brain that controls the heart and lungs.
If u feel you cannot care for ur wife anymore, place her. If MC is not an option, Medicaid will pay for her stay in Long-term care. You need to see and elder lawyer to guide u. He can help you split assets and help with the Medicaid Application.
Lealonnie1
I am a bit confused.
You say YOU were in Hospice. Was it you or your wife?
If you are considering assisted suicide for your wife I hate to say it but at this point it is probably not legally possible.
In places that allow assisted suicide the person has to be mentally competent and be able to administer the drugs themselves.
If this is for yourself and you are competent then you can have proceed with a a medically assisted suicide but I think a doctor will only prescribe the medications if you are terminal.
(Please if I am wrong someone correct this)
If you are considering assisted suicide for your wife you have reached a point where you need to place her in a Memory Care facility where she will get 24/7 care and you can take a step back from the caregiver role and become her husband.
If you have heard the term "Caregiver Burnout" this is it.
If placing her in a MC facility is not an option you NEED to get caregivers to come in and help you.
No one can do this 24/7/365 alone.
PLEASE get help
Contact your local Senior Services center and see if there is help, there may be programs that will help.
Contact local Area Agency on Aging and see if there are programs that may help.
Alzheimer's Association has a 24/7 help line 1-866-232-8484
Please talk to your doctor about what is going on, ask for the name of a Therapist that you can talk to .
You do not have to go this alone.
OP, it sounds a lot like killing.
Are you asking, in order to see how to “kill” your wife? How to “assist her in suicide”?