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If you go out with friends can you tell her that you will be back by...and give her a time? That way she knows you will return. If you leave and do not say when you will be back maybe she thinks you do not plan on returning and since you are what appears to be her "safe person" she gets nervous/anxious thinking you might not come back.
Also, if she has dementia, she could not remember and rose's why she keeps asking where you are to your husband and daughters as she doesn't remember what they said.
Juse like a child, let her know that you will check on her and say good night once you get back.
She has a connection with with me that she is worried I won’t be home, ever. Her husband passed two years ago. I feel she is having abandonment problems.
She always is telling me go it’s ok.
her son is with her but she has quite the connection with me so I don’t go out much.
Have you heard of a Time Timer? It’s a countdown timer that is silent - there’s no loud dinging when time is up. They are commonly used in schools with students for knowing when something is going to happen next. While she gets used to it, your family can keep pointing to the timer every time she asks when you’re going to be back. It’s a great way to visually illustrate how much time is left.
Might be worth a try.
https://www.amazon.com/Time-Timer-Home-MOD-Homeschool/dp/B08K9GFDMP/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=Time+timer&qid=1633025654&sr=8-3
I would suggest, if Mom can afford it, an Assisted Living. The earlier you get some one placed the sooner they except it as their home. You daughters are not always going to be around to help. They need lives of there own. And as much as DH is a good patient man, he needs his wife.
https://www.anthemmemorycare.com/blog/what-is-shadowing-can-you-minimize-it
thats a great link. I hope others check it out.