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I let her know that I am not her in home nursing care because her illness is beyond my limitations and life threatening.
She was bothering me as I was working on important matters for myself and I let her know that. She had a complete tantrum out of nowhere, the first I have ever seen, and very upset shouted I'll never bother you again. Since then there has been silence mingled with blasting her radio and suggesting store staff thought she was me when she gained access to a discount card of mine. All within 3.5 weeks since leaving er.
We live together and there is financial codependency and I am destitute and seriously considering looking for way to move out. She could realistically find someone with more money to spend on rent than myself to share the apartment and she could be better off.
I feel like I'm done.
My MIL was like that and she was passive-aggressive. I am so glad we never had to care for her. For your sanity, you have to just let her pout. Don't give in to her. Go on and do what you need to do or want to do.
When my live-in Mom gets upset, a nasty comment will generally be spoken and then the silent treatment. Control and manipulation won’t change.
AlvaDeer for suggested to drop the “What is Wrong” phrase from vocabulary. I can see where that would not feed into their game. I am going to drop that phrase immediately!
lealonnie1 mentioned their personalities morph into an uglier version of their former self, oh I can’t wait ;(
It is so hard not to take things personally, but it is self preserving!
The best to you!
Just realize, it is so ingrained.
It was all you ever lived with.
Those childhood patterns are not so easy to dismiss, without barking back assertively, which my therapist taught me.
U can change, but the parent has no interest to change their ways.
It still results in the uncomfortable silence, via their fault.
Not a matter of removing dialogue.
Well.....way too much for here.......
But, thanks.
Don't pick up the luggage. I long ago dropped the phrase "What is wrong" from my vocabulary. If someone has something nasty to say to me they need to vomit it up all on their own. Move on with your day. And remember, sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with you.