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I "convinced" him that using a walker would help ME. I loaded up the basket with a lot of the things that I would normally carry. Once he saw that he was helping me he used the walker without a problem.
After he broke his hip (slip and fall on black ice) I got him a much larger walker that he used without a problem as he was used to the smaller one.
Then you hire a caregiver to stay with DH while YOU go out. It's really all you can do as you make changes in life to accommodate disease and dementia.
Best of luck.
I find the authority of a doctor's order is very helpful in many situations. Even if I just say the doctor ordered something it often works much better.
She finally did get the hip replacement and was walking pain free before she died. Never did use a cane. A walker for a few weeks during recovery.
My DH aunt used a cane very well for years. She would throw that cane in a grocery cart and spend hours in the grocery. She was on first name basis with the bakery and pharmacy and some of the checkers. Her mobility issues were due to the dementia. Her therapist explained to me at one point that her use of the cane was better for her at that stage of her decline. I was pushing for a walker. She did use a walker but years later. She is now bedfast.
Another aunt had Parkinson’s and later LBD. She would fall. It goes with the disease her daughter said. She never used a cane or walker or broke a bone. In the end stages the falls did seem to worsen the dementia.
I would suggest you have your DH evaluated by a good physical therapist. See if DH would benefit from therapy. Sometimes it is more dangerous for them to use a device if they are using it incorrectly. also keep a sharp eye on his socks, shoes and nails. One therapist had me change out aunts kitchen chairs as they had rollers. Seems only logical but we can be met with resistance on obvious things and some don’t seem worth the fight until a nonsensical professional points out the problems.
Another suggestion is Rock Steady boxing classes for Parkinson’s. These classes really helped my aunt. Google it.
Also consider looking into one of the emergency devices that DH can wear. When he falls, you call for help with the device. It saves time and your back. You don’t have much to explain as the service has it all there and can get into your home without your help if needed.
Have the therapist give you some pointers on how to manage a fall. This way you won’t be so anxious. You will have a plan when needed. You and he are in this for the long haul so get professional advice on his unique circumstances at this stage and pace yourself. The best support he has is you but not for heavy lifting.
Trying to convince someone with dementia is pretty much a waste of time.
There are some people if you say they can't do something, they will do it. Worth a try.
I was told by a man whose wife suffered from Parkinsons that when they fall they fall backwards. There is a special walker for those who suffer from Parkinson's. Its weighted in such a way to help with this.
I bought my Dad a rolling walker that had 4 wheels, handbrakes, a comfortable seat and basket. Oh my gosh, you'd think I had bought him a Mustang. He went everywhere with that walker, full speed ahead, and I could see him comparing his walkers to other's walkers :)
My Mom, forgetaboutit, she refused to use anything but her cane. She said the walker would make her look old [she was in her late 90's]. Wish she would have used the walker as that cane caused her back to curve over frontward after years of use.
As we went places, she would point to the walkers that had seats and bags, and the colorful walkers. We actually tried a few, however she didn’t understand that you had to apply the brakes to not allow the walker to move.
Once we got a table for the walker and caps that allowed the walker to move more freely, she quit asking for a different walker.
Now she is terrified to go a single step w/o her walker.
My YB drives her the 2 places she goes, and he insists that she have her walker, or she doesn't get to go.
Adapting to a walker, over a cane, say, is depressing to an elder with walking issues.
You have to be a little tough about it. Sadly. But do see if one or two canes will work for him. Just a thought.
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