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Part of your note is cut off, but it looks like you are caring for your husband's mother. You don't have to quit visiting, but he needs to get more help for her. In-home help can be gotten on weekends, too. You have children who need you, a job and school, for heavens sake!
Don't cut her out of your life, but tell your husband you can't keep it up. You are not abandoning him or anyone. You just can't do more, for the sake of your own heath. You may need to get your husband to a counselor and lay it on the line so he can see how much you handle. He is likely in denial about how much you do as he doesn't know where else to go for help. You can consult with your county social services, if money is an issue. The eldercare locator at www.eldercare.gov is a good place to go to see what services are offered in your area. He needs to get care for her so you can be a mother, wife, employee and student.
Guilt has no place in your life. This is a situation that needs to be fixed, or you will be the one who needs care. You don't want your kids to have to care for you, I'm sure.
Carol
Stay strong let him know that you are right that you can't keep doing all that you are for his mother and then do what you need to do and understand that you are being realistic and he is not, that is what I did- I always gave in to keep peace and now that I got strong and understood I could decide how much a load I could handle and I was worth more than that it made a big difference and everyone tell me I look better and can honastly say I am now a happier person. Keep in touch and give yourself a pat on the back or better yet go by yourself to get an ice cream cone and slow down for 15 min- it works wonders.