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Your mother is blind, has heart disease and at least until recently was recovering from broken bones. You are new to caregiving, you say yourself you feel uneducated about "all this stuff," and you mention that you and your husband are bringing your mother into your "small home."
Time being short - because by the time you read this it will be today that you plan to collect her - you need to do two things.
Find out from the hospital what her daily care routine has been.
Figure out on the journey home how you are going to manage it.
Have you been able to make any preparations at all for her arrival?
If estranged Brother... Stop right here. No not pass go. Do not collect your Mother until YOU have this authority.
If there is a worse situation than the trials of a new caregiver, it is becoming a new caregiver with no way out.
You have kindly offered your time, care & home as the new plan. But you will need the legal authority if a plan B is required.
As far as being obligated to pick her up from the hospital......he's not. Sons and daughters have been known to drop a parent off at an Assisted Living facility with a suitcase, never to be beard from again. When my mother was in rehab, we heard a woman screaming in pain continuously. The nurse said they've been unable to get hold of the woman's children to simply authorize hospice care, so their mother would die in pain as a result. Sad but true.
You are admittedly going into a tough caregiving situation blindly, with no experience, and that can be a very big mistake. Your brother has washed his hands of this situation for a reason which you are about to become aware of yourself. You're going to need a backup plan if things don't work out having your mother living with you. If you have no experience dealing with a blind elder, things can get very tricky very fast. Her tripping over things won't be an odd occurrence if she is in unfamiliar surroundings. Call an occupational therapist who has experience with blind elders and get some guidance and advice. Have her come into your home and tell you how to set it up properly for your mothers arrival, and what gadgets and supplies you need to purchase.
Look into Skilled Nursing facilities in your area that can take her if need be and you can't deal with the whole situation.
I myself could not do it, and I know that. I recognize my limitations when it comes to proving full time care for a 100% dependant elder. Wishing you the best of luck.
But please recognize that your feelings toward mom are your feelings. Others may feel quite differently.