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If your father is a veteran, contact your local VA hospital. Bring a copy of his honorable discharge and get him into their Primary Based Home Care program for senior veterans. My father is similar to yours. The VA got him a motorized wheelchair, a ramp for accessibility to outside of the house and a custom stairlift to get grim first floor to second floor to access bedrooms. The program also provides a nurse aide part time and nurses who monitor his health care needs. If he is a veteran these things are free or have a small copay, he earned them through his service to his country. I am in similar situation with my dad. Good luck.
What about leaving a jigsaw puzzle out on a table he can roll himself up to?
Many people like to feel useful. Folding towels or sorting socks are chores that can be done seated.
My husband has chf, too, and we find there are many exhibits that are very suitable for wheelchair use. Our local science museum offers discount memberships to persons with handicaps. They change their featured exhibit every few months. That makes a very nice outing for us. There is a nice conservatory that has been updated to be wheel-chair accessible, and it is a wonderful pick-me-up to stroll among flowers in the middle of winter. The zoo is fun. We have a large acquarium that accomodates wheelchair guests. Wandering around indoor malls, window shopping, and stopping for a snack or meal is a break from watching movies. If your dad can transfer in and out of the car, and you can get the chair in and out of the trunk or back seat, you don't have to be limited to the same four walls.
A senior center is another possibility. It is a change of scenery and a chance to visit with other people in his age range. Ours serves a hot lunch, and has someone who reads aloud a chapter a day, and also a book club for discussions of books the participants read on their own. Worth looking into, at least.
Maybe you could come up with projects to do together, to break the boredom and perhaps also get some more personal interaction going. Are there a few shoe boxes of family pictures stuck in the back of a closet? Perhaps you could sort them together, try to figure out dates, label the people, etc.
Did he have any hobbies in his healthier days that might be adaptable to being done in a wheelchair?
Could he do sudoku or crosswords? What if you did a crossword, and asked him every few minutes for help with the clues? Maybe he'd get drawn into it inspite of himself.
I'd love to have a few days to indulge myself in nonstop movie viewing. But I'm sure I would be stir crazy long before 8 weeks! You are wise to be looking for a variety of other things to do. Since lots of caregivers are in your spot, I hope you'll report back on any things you try that work well.