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This might sound odd, but the most helpful thing she does for me is to shout at me when the laundry buzzes goes. She usually sits close to the laundry room. I usually am running around the house. To get it all done, I like to know when the buzzer goes off so that I can immediately handle those clothes. Since she's close, she'll shout out that it's gone off and she'll do that until I respond that I heard her. With the extra laundry I have from her, you won't believe how incredibly helpful this is!
Mom monitors the bathrooms. If she sees one is almost out of TP or toothpaste or whatever, she'll replace that or will tell me we're on the last one.
I have my mom folding the laundry and have given up caring about how it looks. She is not great at matching socks and I do have to redo that part. If you're wanting your laundry folded quite nicely, I would just give up on that. My issue is that I have more to do with her so, I no longer worry about having the laundry so nicely folded. We're all busy in this household and if something has to fall by the wayside, I feel not at all guilty about badly-folded laundry (versus more important things like getting meals on the table and keeping things clean).
I have my mom sewing but her eyesight isn't great. Even with a needle-threader, there are some days when she needs my help threading needles. Our deal is that we have a LOT of needles, I do them all at once, and she tries to work independently for the rest of the sewing. She mends things and sews on buttons.
Rarely, I do get the opportunity to stuff and stamp envelopes for a group I belong to and I volunteer for that mainly so she can press the stamps on, which is helpful to the group and does make her feel good.
I work with a group that sews tote bags for wheelchairs and sick people. My mom also sews, so I asked my mom if she'd like that. Initially, she hated the idea of making something nice and giving it to a stranger but she's warmed up to the idea and, as I write this, she is probably stitching away.
If we agree my mom will do something where she can sit, but it's not in a steady place or at a place that's too high, I just take a wooden chair to where she'd sit. Usually, she needs to put things down, so I put her next to an endtable. Occasionally, I'll bring a fold-up table to her.
If you clip coupons, let her do it. Don't worry that you'll miss some, just generally tell her what to look for and if you end up missing a couple, it's probably still freeing you up to do something else, so it's worth the $1 or so that might get missed.
Sorting anything: for example, if you're going to be buying a chocolate bunny and candy egg and etc... for quite a few kids in the family, when you get it home, hand it to her and have her sort it all. When you're ready to assemble the Easter baskets, it's all in piles and you just load it all, basket-by-basket. Or, at Christmas, if you by a body lotion for each family member and a fancy bar of soap to go with it and a body wash to match and it's in one bag, have her sort that out.
Of course you don't want your mom to do things around the house when her balance is bad and she may topple over at any minute. And using non-stationary objects (like a table) to brace oneself is a PT no-no. As you said, the table could go right over with her.
Can she wipe down the counters with a rag and some Windex or something and still use her walker? As long as she stays inside her walker she can grab the handles if she starts to feel unbalanced and just drag the walker along with her as she goes.
I understand why dusting would be a problem. Getting to those hard to reach areas may be dangerous for her. What if your removed all of her things off of her dresser and ask her to dust her dresser? If it's at waist level and she has her walker she could dust the dresser.
You might have to think outside the box, come up with some things that your mom can do. Create some work for her so she can feel helpful. Work where she can have her walker with her. How about setting the table for dinner? Get some oranges from the store and have her make fresh squeezed orange juice. She can do this sitting at the table. Peeling carrots for dinner?
My dad had a need to feel useful as well but being my dad he wasn't really into the whole homemaker thing so I would ask his advice and opinion on things. Parenting tips. Current events. Little issues that come up in everyday life like car questions or job-related questions. He really enjoyed sharing his experiences with me.
Does she like word search puzzles (if still can do).
Don't be hard on yourself..... you have done nothing wrong and are doing te best you can.... I find myself rolling my eyes too... its frustration and fatigue.......