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Oh btw, anything over 15000 a year to a recipient is irs taxable to you, so I think it’s time for mom to explore Medicaid.
The answer to letting your sister move in is a sound no! Why should you become a victim in her ongoing financial saga. Not your problem. Your mother is enabling your sister but complains and continues to do so. You are expected to fix your sister's financial mess by allowing her to move in? Go figure? Sounds like emeshment.
First thing you need to do is find a new therapist! ASAP.
Second thing is tell you sister you don't want any contact with her, and tell mom that if she lets your sister move in you are done helping Mom!
I'm not exactly sure ,as Alva said what the question really is but,that's my answer to your sister issues if that is you question.
If you want to fill us in more?
This goes for rats, silverfish, bedbugs, roaches, and sisters.
You mention "bad choices". You are correct. They have consequences. And you cannot manage or prevent those.
You seem to have no specific question for us. Yours is rather a history of problems that are ongoing. If you do have a specific problem, choice, action, something concrete I think we may be of some help. I can't otherwise imagine how we could do much but give you our sincere sympathy (I do) and wish you the very best of luck (I surely do that as well).
Take care.
Once you let her in she will NOT leave. Once she sets up residence she cannot be thrown out.
D will always blame everyone but herself for decisions made.
Do not rely on sons.
You will be hated, you will be cursed at, you will be threatened.
You will need to understand that and you will need to stand up for your sanity.
NO, is going to be your word from now on.
Oh and important - do not let your mom go with your sister ANYWHERE! I have also experienced that - my uncle never returned alive - he died of a broken heart with his daughter.
If anything document everything so that if anything happens you have a documentation of it.
This is not easy - trust me - been there done that!
"She accuses mom of lying when it's clear mom simply can't remember." You Mom seems to have Dementia and will not be able to age in place. Dementia worsens, it does not get better. If she can't remember she should not be living alone. Your sister should be kept away from her. She is the abuser.
Your sister is where she is because of the choices she made. Not because Mom is a bad person.