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My daughter's father chose not to be in her life. His loss. At work two half sisters were fighting over their mothers care. Seems the oldest chose to live with her Dad when the parents separated. The mother remarried and had the younger girl. Oldest claimed Mom never treated her as a daughter. Visits to her home were not pleasant so she stopped going. She felt she owed her Mom nothing because she was never treated well as her daughter. They wanted my daughter's opinion she told them they were asking the wrong person because she would never do for her real Dad because he never did for her.
Now, about the pampers. It's really important that this gets changed frequently. If he continues to wear wet, acidic urinated overflowing pampers for hours, his front and butt area will become irritated and most likely break out with rashes. If you don't control those rashes, it will worsens to the point he's scratching inside (front and back) and will most likely smear the mess all over the place. And if this continues, he will have bedsore. Trust me, you don't want this to happen. Bedsores happen so fast and the hole gets big so fast. Hole as in going deep down towards the bone. Very gross. My dad's one and only bedsore bled profusely. Mom's one and only bedsore didn't bleed but it sure tried to go deep towards the bone. Hers took weeks to get rid of it. Each of those small square patches cost $10.00 each, not covered by insurance. We spent over $200 on those patches.
Try to check out stores in your area. CVS sometimes has sales on generic pampers. My dad's pampers could never hold his urine overnight. He always wet the bed every morning. When he got the catheter (urine no longer flowed out automatically), I had to empty the bag quite often because he urinates a lot. He can't help it. Your dad can't help it.
@Barb, hopefully, he knows how to find his question. I've read how a few posters don't know how to find their questions to see what the answers are.
And as most of us have probably discovered, some posters post only once and never return.
Or it's possible that there's a crisis at home. We know all too well that those happen!
Call your local Area Agency on Aging and get dad a needs assessment. Or call his doctor and ask for a social worker and OT to be assigned to do that.
What are dad's financial resources? Start calling care facilities. Get him on every waiting list you can. See if the facility will come and assess if dad is a fit for their facility.
Alternatively, call A Place for Mom and work with them to identify dad's
level of need and the appropriate place. Paid for with HIS FUNDS.