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Shift to a separate credit card for groceries etc - he won't eat as much food but he will consume extra hygene products - if he is having the beer too included it but if not then pay that separately - you will have the paper trail if needed
I use 1 card for groceries, another for gas, another for miscellanious items [clothes etc] so I can see where the money is going - this a cheap way to do bookkeeping because the card company does it for you
It was the POA, that forced my hand to move mom on to Medicaid so I could bring in outside help. It was thru that process that the elder Care attorney Drew up a rental agreement so I could have easier access to mom's money. With that rent I covered all mom's expenses. That was the recommendation of our attorney. That way I didn't have to keep and submit receipts and have the stress if dealing with the POA. By the way the POA was my younger sister :(.
Anyway, I should have done that from the beginning. But you don't know what you don't know, right? Live and learn. Good luck. Your willingness to take on the care is admirable. You will not regret it. I didn't.
If these amounts go to you regularly it may appear to Medicaid (or relatives) that Dad is giving you gifts, and that can cause trouble with a Medicaid application and resentment within families. To avoid this, have written agreements in place. An Elder Law attorney can help set things up so they are entirely legal and appropriate in the eyes of Medicaid. Such an attorney can also see that other legal documents (such as power of attorney) are in place.
When our mother lived with my sister, my sister charged her the same amount she had been paying in subsidized housing. Obviously she could afford that -- she'd been paying it for years. Mom was on Medicaid at that point, and my sister also accepted the small amount Medicaid would pay for caregiving. All of this was not adequate compensation for the work involved, but it helped offset some of the costs and it also helped my sister feel that her efforts were being acknowledged and taken seriously.
In my opinion, all elders should be given the dignity of paying their own way to the extent feasible. Absolutely all of them should contribute SOMETHING, even if it doesn't come close to covering their expenses. And Medicaid certainly acknowledges that elders need to pay their own way. You just need to be sure it looks like a payment and not a gift.
Now, at the beginning of this new relationship, would be a good time to consult an attorney specializing in Elder Law. Be sure you have things set up correctly from the start.