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It's usually when one stops eating and drinking completely that death will come sooner than later, or if she were to have another stroke.
My late husband was completely bedridden and under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life and he didn't eat for 41 days and didn't drink anything for about 25 days before he finally died. It was very difficult to witness for sure.
I would just tell you to enjoy whatever time you may have left with your mother and make sure that you leave nothing left unsaid.
Not wanting your mom to go but at the same time, wanting her at peace, wanting it to be over, and right now time and life on the outside world is just at a stand still.
It's horrible, I'm so sorry, your not alone
I suspect she has been ready for a while, and that's why she wouldnt take her meds.
I believe the question is about her quality of life and letting nature take its course. This is hard - declining, dying.
What is her cognitive abilities? Mood?
You do what you can in each moment, be it touch/massage, smiling.
In terms of eating, do / did you try protein drinks with supplements in it - or chocolate - whatever she likes. And would drink.
It is important to remember - or think about her quality of life vs keeping her alive to keep her alive - this may be hard to hear. No one wants a loved one to pass on however we need to put their feelings and needs in front of our own.
I hope that I am not being too brass or direct although I feel it is important to share how I really feel. "Let go and let God" as a saying goes.
And, then - now - take care of yourself.
It certainly isn't easy. I went through a similar situation and I am sure many here do / have. We do the best we can and that is all we can do.
Gena / Touch Matters
My father had dementia, cancer, and other incurable conditions. He told me in January he had a good life and was ready to go. He had lost a lot of weight by then and was diagnosed with adult failure to thrive. We started home hospice. He was barely eating, wanted nothing but one bowl of ice cream per day. He lived another four months and died at 80. I was very grateful for hospice.
May you find peace and bless you. Cherish every moment.
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