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She was driving on a beautiful day up the main road to our home (the road is wide and only a few curves). My Mom literally drove off the road for no reason (to this day can’t explain why) into a five foot deep gully. She proceeded to go headfirst into a telephone poll knocking down the wires for over 300 feet. The poll went across the road and thankfully no other cars or people were involved. Thankfully she had her Jitterbug on her and a woman driving by was able to find the emergency number and call me and 911!
In the end, Mom was fine other than bruised ribs and ego. My brother and I made the decision to have her cease all driving. The condition was that in order for her to continue living with me, she would have to agree to give up driving. She reluctantly agreed. She still complained she can’t drive and even after her Alz diagnosis….still states she’s fine and has no memory issues. Sometimes tough love needs to happen. You absolutely did the right thing reporting her to the DMV! You can also get a doctor’s note too to recommend the driving cease. I’m not sure if her doctor will do that for you…. Depending on whether you have any sort of healthcare proxy?
Small towns do have benefits that large cities don't.
I am glad you have reliable people because Uber and Lyft for ailing seniors scares me.
I don’t care she is upset about losing her driving privileges. Better to lose that than her own life, or someone else.
(Mom may not agree, but...)
Additionally, even having her license revoked may not stop her from driving. You may still need to physically remove the car so she can't drive it, and tell other family, neighbors and friends to never lend her their car. You don't have to wait to get her used to alternative transportation. Go out on a lunch date with her using Uber or Lyft and see what she thinks. Do it more than once. Arrange for others to ferry her to appointments and give them gas gift cards. When my in-laws were imploding I gave out Target and Cub Foods gift cards to neighbors and told them to buy anything my in-laws needed and for themselves as a thank you. It worked great. Ideally you'd do it with proceeds from the sale of your mom's car. So glad you did a hard thing!
If mother is livid, so what? Her anger has no power over you.