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Back in 1965, my elderly gramma broke her hip. She announced to friends that she was going to be an invalid and that her daughters would wait on her.
My mom said "No, mom, I can't possibly do that. I can care for you better if you go to rehab and get strong, but not if you are an invalid". I think my mother knew that if gramma came home, there was no way she was going to follow instructions about exercise and the like.
Gramma never really forgave my mom, but my mother didn't much care. Her mother learned to walk again.
My mom DID take care of her mom in her later years. Mom was in good health and was a stay at home mom. By the time she herself was in need of care, we all lived too far and all worked full time. Mom went to an Independent Living facility and then to a Nursing Home. Times change.
You have only just returned from a major trip away and have things like unpacking to do.
For now, for the time being, take deep breaths and take the time to think about your next steps.
Your mother can refuse rehab if she wants to, and if she's mentally competent; but what she cannot do, what is not her decision to make, is require you to provide the care she needs.
You are right not to feel guilty. This is not your doing and not your responsibility. But it is also not something that requires an immediate decision, now, today.
Give your brother a gold star and let him enjoy his fifteen minutes of hero-worship. Tomorrow is another day.
Did you have a great time? Is the dog speaking to you??