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We have to remember this is there choice, and we can't let it ruin us because of the choices they make!
That's what this forums for to keep are head held high.
My friend who's husband and dad died in November, woke up one day last week happy, for the first time. I told her she is starting to heal. And told her she will have bad days still but hold on to that one good day, and when the bad days come , remember that good day, and know in your heart that there will be more good days to come.
So hold on to you good days, or hours or moments. And know you will have more.
I hope Mark will accept hospice help so he can be more comfortable. I know he is scared and angry and who knows how long he has? I am talking kindly to him about day-to-day things to keep up his spirits. I am transferring my teaching license to NM and hopeful about having a job in Aug. My 10 years teaching experience means I don’t have to retake tests to be certified just prove my licensure and pay a fee. I have some retirement savings in TX already, so that is good. Only 25 years until I can retire!
My doggies are good, going on walks. My oldest, Pepita, has patellar luxation. She can’t go very far so I got her a stroller. I walk Sky and push her so it works well.
It is nice and people are friendly. I got out of Mesquite just before those huge storms hit with downed power lines and major damage. I am sad a lot but trying not to let others know.
How are you adjusting to your new place. Have thought of you.
So sorry for the loss of your pups. Our animals become a part of our family. We grieve for them.
You have been through so much grief with Mark. I hope you’re at peace with your life now.
Take care.
Glad the trip went smoothly for you and your pups.
I'm so glad you are getting your life together, I'm sure you still worry and still think, to much probably, if your anything like me. But your doing awesome. I'm glad the doggies are happy too. You have finally found so peace in your life.
I'm sure you will have bad days like we all do , just brush them off and soke up the good days.
I was surprised to find out that Medicare charges a co-pay for oxygen, I guess I thought that Mark's insurance would cover it. I am sure he will have to have portable oxygen as he needed it to move down with Robert and with one lung being scarred, I am sure he will need it. Mark has had COPD for a long time, so I guess it's not too surprising. I wish they could 100% say what is causing him to have fluid build-up.
I am sorry for this update on Mark. He will have a whole different medical team. Happily today they can get the records, but Mark's history is such a long one and they really don't have time to go over reams and reams of material to catch up on everything.
I think the move is difficult and I don't know how good the medical is there, but I think none of this bodes well.
I think that you have long known that Mark is a dying man, beset with all he has, there being no real cure for it, he has chosen to fight on and he will likely do that throughout.
I just am sorry. There's nothing else to say. I know you are now dealing with your own feelings of being separated through these bouts.
How are YOU doing?
Mark has been through many stages. It’s not easy for him or others to see this happening.
This is what it will be and it won't be easy. Nothing about it ever was, right? Best place for you is 1,000 miles away.
When you talk on the phone discuss the weather. Be polite, don't ask, don't tell.
You've got such a good heart. I know how complicated your feelings and thoughts are about all of this. Try to journal through it so you can work through it a bit in your mind. It must be a swirling stew of repetitive thoughts. There are so many levels of complexity here for both you and for Mark.
I've followed this story right along and I am convinced these are the right moves for all involved. Mark will feel more in control. You won't have to try to control what cannot BE controlled. And you will build slowly the life you deserve, still caring about this man you've loved.
Joan Didion once said that she "writes so I know what I think" and I guess this is true for lots of us. It helps the brain work it out. I think that our dreams help us work out where our head is at as well.
I have been following your story and am convinced that you would do just about anything for the good of all involved and I believe you have slowly and surely made all the right moves in this. That is not going to make it hurt less. Hugs to you, woman. Hug your pups close and love on them. Allow yourself to weep, then dry the tears, take a few motrin, and move on best you can. I am glad you have support.
I am sorry. It’s natural to grieve for what could have been. No one anticipates these kind of problems in a marriage.
Sending hugs and support your way.
All you can do is grieve for the hard times and move forward to a better future. I wish you peace during this transitioning stage in your life.
Take care.
Hopefully having a diagnosis makes things easier now.
And he gets good care.