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Next time you visit, if she says anything like that, just give her a hug and tell her you'll "see her later" because you have some errands to run. Don't say "tomorrow", because maybe you need to do something for yourself tomorrow!
She is safe and you are still caring for her, but now you are living your own life.
It is difficult to detach, but you must, for both of you. Big Hugs!
It's heartbreaking when our loved ones are upset, all of this is a big transition for all. So that is why the medication can help. I understand being berated and the constantly wanting to go home; I'm a veteran now of all that. But, although the elderly person doesn't realize it, a facility is the best answer. My mother has made many friends there and sees far more people on a daily basis, than she would living at home or even with me. Living at home and even living with a loved one can be lonely. Not to mention that it is a safer environment at the facility if they are prone to falling, as my mother is. She had been in the hospital every month for something, mostly falling.
I'm sorry about your mother crying; my heart goes out to you. You are a wonderful caretaker for your mom and doing the right thing even though she may not realize it. Things will get better in time. Bless you and take care.
do better in assisted living. We placed my dad in a memory care home when he was released from the hospital. He hated it. Dad is functioning at a higher level & we brought him home to live with us. The different levels of care vary from home to home, perhaps her doctor could help you with this. Her doctor should be able to prescribe some meds to help alleviate her fears. Also, I have found great information on dementia & caregiving at ALZ.org. This is a difficult journey for both of you. You are a caring son. Wishing you the best!