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Also - I guess we have to learn that they may not smell freshly bathed all the time. Sometimes you can get the feet. Then, the hair. A sponge bath (if you're lucky) for their privates. But slow is the magic word. It shows that you've done it. That's why people love this site. Experience counts.
Carol
don't call it a bath - reminisce about you & siblings as babies and how she used to bathe you as a new mom, joking alot helps. try a with a neck/shoulder massage.....then you can ease into a spongebath with a warm towel & norinse cleaner. For her feet - just do a foot soak with some very gentle cleaner....once she trusts you and feels better then it won't be as hard for her (you - well its how you feel about the time & effort)
good luck. My mom was and continues to be bath adverse, but I have found it's all how you approach it that gets it done and keeps you sane.
How are things going for you
I'll never forget the first time I took my dad to the bathroom. I was so afraid he'd be embarrassed, but there was no choice. He was fine with it, and I eventually relaxed, since he was okay.
The last thing you want to do is imply that your mom hasn't been taking care of herself. She'll be defensive. So your idea of saying that she needs help because of the split is brilliant. Whether it's you helping her or hired help, that gives you a ready-made excuse. You can try to say, "You won't be able to keep that dry yourself, so I can help you." If she doesn't want that, then you can tell her "Then, medical people will have to - you can't get the splint wet." Hopefully, she'll cooperate.
Some elders become afraid of the shower, tub or even water. There may be more to her not bathing than just not feeling like it. But often, they just don't have the energy. You may find that, with tact on your part, she will be happy for the help.
Please let us know how you are doing.
Carol