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It is good news that you decided to pursue medical after this, that is a great cause.
We will get thru this, we will .....
Today she is being discharged, it worries me coz she has bed sores, I am not trained to change the dressing but after a week of seeing how the nurses do it, I will try my best to do it .... I am just worry it will get bigger .... I really need a miracle .....
Sorry to hear about your dad but at least he has you to take care of him, you will be blessed for that .....
Yes, personal home care cost a bomb over here too ... sigh .. only rich ppl can afford the best ......
Sorry for the late reply. My mum is back in the hospital and I spent most of my time there, only come home to rest for like 5 - 6 hours and there I go again .....
I hope by now your dad is in the nursing home coz the doctors are right, we are not trained to give sufficient care for the elderly.
Yes, our heart melts when our parents begs us for something - for example now, your dad keeps on calling you to get him out from rehabilitation and you gave in. Same like my mum now, everyday she will ask me to ask the doctors to let her go home. My heart breaks that I cannot do that but for her own good, I have to be "cruel".
About the other siblings, you are right, they are not the one taking care of your dad so they can give you many advises that doesn't fit you or your dad. I have been thru that too, so now I might still ask them for advise but I will only follow them if it can done.
Hang in there Amanda, you are doing great !!
I know some days are tough, believe me, since my mum fell a month ago, I cried almost everyday !!! I can cry for few days in a row and then "rest" 1 or 2 days and get all emotional again after that ..... at home I will let out my extreme cry, sit on the floor, cry my heart out to God, shout like a mad woman, do whatever you need to do to let out Amanda .......
You are doing well, keep it up ok ;-)) and thanks for the hugs - hugs back to you !!!
For now you can only wait for the doctor to explain to you what is happening with your dad so in the mean time just do your best for him.
Yes, of course it breaks our heart when they beg for something, like my mum now, she begs to go home but her condition doesn't permits her to do so yet.
This is the point where we have to be a little bit tough for their own good .....
Just try your best Amanda, as long as you do it sincerely from your heart, God will know and you will know too ......
Am trying to get used to the routine now that my mum is still in the hospital. Her appetite has increased for these pass two days. She is now eating what she used to eat before, small portion but frequent meals. I am so thankful for my prayers answered.
Her water intake has also increased and she even craved for coffee !!
I am not sure where this will lead us, just live it one day at a time .....
Vstefans, thanks for dropping by, I hope my mum gets better too esp from her depression, am praying about that too ......
Now that my sis is here, she stay with our mum at nite, day time by me. But things will get tough when my sis goes back to her town this Sunday. I might need someone to take care of my mum but the caretaker here can cost a bomb - $70 per day ;-(( Am not sure how long my mum will be staying, if not more than one week than it should be ok, if not, then I have to see what I can do, I don't want my mum to be in the hospital all alone. ;-((
waiting, what you said here is so true, we must pray for wisdom on what to do, that is why me and my sis prayed and ask for guidance and this is what we have decided to do.
Hope you are doing well too and welcome to the forum, hey ... I am new too !! ;-))
My dad does suffer from depression, he still recalls things from being in the Korean War, and he feels a lot of guilt over decisions he has made in his life, but he has to learn that he cannot keep abusing the people trying to take care of him. We are also at the point of telling him if he doesn't start taking care of himself, we will have him committed against his will. It is sad, but it is the only way sometimes. Please don't feel guilty about the decisions you have to make. The thing I pray for most is wisdom to know what to do.
Now we are waiting for the psychiatris to see her for her depression. Each time we try to feed her,she will say just let her die so this is surely a sign for depression.
We all hope for the best and pray for miracle .....
Judy, I think like you said, a broken hips marks the end for them, that is what these “old” generations are thinking, feel so sorry for them. Only the power of prayer can get me and my mum thru this.
Thanks Bookworm for thinking of me and for sharing your story, it’s such a relief that I found this forum with so many caring hearts that is “accompanying” me through this. My sister is coming on Tuesday so I will discuss with her what is best for mum. I want to share this responsibility, it’s such a heavy load for me to make all these decisions.
Again, thanks ALL for dropping by and giving me support and sharing your story. It’s good to know that I am not alone in this.
When dad came home from the hospital. He went on and on about dying except he was accusing us of trying to kill him. He absolutely refused to go the clinic for follow-up. Unfortunately, we were a bit aggressive to get him to go. (His insurance requires a follow-up visit with his regular doctor within a month of being released from the hospital. If he did not go, the insurance will Not cover any stroke-related medical cost.)
I would take everyone's advice about having your mother walk as soon as possible. But, Cat's advice is even more important at the moment. Maybe you should take your mom to the clinic/hospital for an after-surgery follow up visit. Write down all your concerns and questions. Maybe you can also bring up physical therapy?