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So at the same time that you are apologizing for your provocative behavior you continue to engage in more provocative and accusatory behavior? Because that's not transparent at all.
I enjoy this forum and learned so much from all of you. But the stress, the uncaring replys, the in consideration for other people's feels is somedays to much. People pretending to be a caretaker and aren't and others feeling they can say what they want without any regards to how the person on the other side might feel is to much!
Something has change on this forum and I am not sure what it is!
I am here looking for answers and to connect with people that are going through the samething or people that have gone through it.
I try my best to post anwsers from my heart and experience and be just a matter-of-fact.
Polarbear, I am not leaving this forum all together:) Thank you for your support. You should message NHWM.
Cwilly, I know I was wrong and thank you for accepting my apologie.
Freqflyer, I agree with you!
Tiger, I also agree with you!
Frazzled I also agree with you as well!
Tacy, I am sorry if I had anything to do with your friend leaving. I wish she would have told me and am sure we could have worked it out.
Send, None of us are prefect. Thank you for your support.
Salutem, I will no longer be posting you my answers or comments to you because I just know me and I can not remain impartial. Sorry!
Cwilly, you are right we all are dealing with so much stress and presure partner up with resentment and pain.
Thank you everybody for your understanding and support.
In my career I had to use diplomacy in every aspect of my life. A few years back when the Captain went after me for whatever reason, I had to sit on my hands to keep from making comments that wouldn't have been user-friendly.
So many on this forum are under a lot of stress with caregiving, or trying to recover from caregiving. There are still hot buttons that one can push and it is only human to react. And there are difficult topics, such as Hospice, that will bring out the best and worst in people..... [sigh]
This thread has become obsolete, and should be archived, imo.
Sorry Polar, but when a thread has become fodder for gossip, it serves no purpose, imo. If the admins decided to delete a post, that proves they are still monitoring this website, and are right there, right now.
Read fast.....my posts are often deleted quickly, lol.
And, the website is no longer new.
Group hug everyone!
"NeedHelpWithMom
Posted May 23, 2019
I am going in for more heart tests today. Under stress and I am going to take a break from the forum. Please say prayers."
And Shell, thanks for the apology 🤗
I understand your point. But it has to be acknowledged that there is a clique on here and from the PM's I've received many besides me have been on the receiving end of harsh, judgmental lectures and a clique that gangs up on people and calls them trolls if they object. After that, I decided that wouldn't happen again so I turned on all privacy settings to prevent any further PM's, though I have to say I did hear from many kind and welcoming people. Now I'm finished saying what I needed to get off my chest so I'm done with the matter.
This is exactly the kind of bickering gladimhere was talking about - what, are we 12 years old that we can't just agree to disagree?
I miss Carol Barsack... K. Gabriel Heiser Esq... and Ralph Robbins CFP
Also miss the bloggers such as David Hilfiker... John Schappi... Rick Phelps... Ann Marie Mercera.... and a lady, I think her name was Mivna who was caring for her husband Charlie. I always wonder what is going on in their lives now.
As for the nastiness on the site - it seems to have calmed down a little bit lately. I'm always especially dismayed when those who have been on the site a long time join in or even instigated it, they should know better. And complaints to the administrators are sometimes ignored.
I am starting to evaluate whether this site holds any validity for me any longer. The nastiness I am seeing is unbelievable. People can't seem to ignore ugliness, instead they follow the knee jerk reaction, respond in defense, and make a bad situation worse. Don't need the negativity in my life.
When it comes to the written word, we are not seeing facial expressions, thus cannot judge the mood of a posting. Some will read a post seeing helpful information, someone else will read it seeing it as being unfriendly. I remember when I first came on the forum, I was oversensitive due to the stress. One post I thought was down right rude, but I didn't say anything. After a while, that writer was so right with that posting, I just couldn't see the forest for the trees.
I learned my way around a public forum decades ago when I was debating politics. Now, that is where one is thrown into the deep end of the pool, and sometimes walking on hot coals. It was quite a learning experience. Eventually I learned to just think "whatever" and move on to the next debate :)
I have been told (via PMs that mention no dates or details) that the way I answered some questions in the past that I am the cause of a couple of people leaving the forum. So I have become "gun-shy" about answering any question and often wonder if what I am writing will be taken wrong AGAIN. 🙍
Over the past year, I have become more and more careful which questions I post on and many times my answers are referrals to some websites that are related to the original poster's topic. I have never posted a question to the Forum as I am so afraid of the negative feedback that I might receive.
So I read the postings and when I feel that I can truly contribute to the original poster's question, then I post an answer.
I have also noticed that some health care businesses have posted as individuals on some of the questions and I do not think that is appropriate.
SIGH! 🙍
As for someone forgetting a temper tantrum - that's what dementia is. People with dementia can often feel lost and out of control and may lash out in anger, fear or other disruptive ways.
BTW, AgingCare has hundreds of articles full of information about many topics, you can find them by selecting "care topics" from the banner at the top of the page.
I see on your profile that your stepfather, out of the blue, had an angry outburst directed at his wife and now doesn't remember that it happened; but if she has told you what happened and you can describe it to us, we'll have a better chance of making helpful suggestions.
Sorry you've been searching in vain so far - very annoying.