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It is just SO easy to walk away.
The speculation initially and then more speculation to try to legitimize the first speculation. FFS!
I sure agree with you on grudges. That is heavy baggage, there. Hauling around the past is impossible. Just the other day I got called a practicer of Nazism, and was told I needed to get "tested". They didn't mean for Covid, hee hee! What are you going to do? That's on THEM. Can it pack a sting. Sure. But if we don't know who we are no one else can convince us.
By gones are by gones. No one can even remember things. There's no sense hauling stuff. Half of it is that someone was lied to. Half of it is they are having an awful day. Mostly it isn't really about you.
Stacy, I would bet that the admins here haven't even a CLUE of past history here. Not a clue. And I wouldn't think they would care at all, either. If you were A Place For Mom, would you?
Yeah, that’s true. Conflicts will always arise.
I liked WorriedinCali. Some people didn’t. Loved Captain too!
I never expect to be appreciated by everyone. I never expect to like everyone. We’re all different and we aren’t attracted to everyone on the planet.
A couple of people weren’t nice to me but I wasn’t looking for approval from anyone. I was seeking support and information about caring for my mom.
I also think that it is ignorance speaking when they are unkind. They haven’t walked in that person’s shoes and they simply don’t understand their situation. I never hold a grudge. It’s a waste of time for me.
There were many great posters who helped me and the ones that didn’t I didn’t pay any attention to.
I think that it’s perfectly fine for everyone to have their own opinions and personalities. I’m a live and let live person. I like nonconformists! I don’t expect anyone to change for me. Be true to yourself.
cwillie could be right that it could be site glitches, esp. since they ARE having problems, but yeah, the whoopskitten is still there on those same questions from early April. About 5 or 6. Go see if you like.
cwillie says that has happened. Not that I have ever seen, that's for certain. In fact unless someone commented on an old post, bringing it up top, they just faded away.
So yeah, go up on the "High Road" as I call it and look at old posts, try to get their profile and you will get whoopskitty which I assume means there IS no account. That many folks got offended and left. Nope. I don't buy that one. Admins working on the site? Sure. Makes sense to me.
As to explanations? I got one when my profile went down. Asked and received. As it happened Bandy and I apparently had our profiles go down in a slightly unique manner in that we could post, but it would quickly erase itself. So for days we could not post. Need may have had this. With my memory don't ask ME.
I asked and was told that this sometimes happens when you have been "reported". As it happens I had been told that day that an OP found my comment to her "rude".
Though I apologized I would imagine she would still have reported it. I would have. I was told that if you are reported it sometimes flags the account until admins check it out? So that was my explanation. As to explanations of others, they are as you see on this thread. If others have been given explanations they have not shared them with me.
As to planted questions, why would anyone PLANT a question? Just for chaos? Who knows. I do believe there are people who love trouble and foment. I do believe there are people who have grudges. I don't ask for details and don't have them.
Someone today suggested to me a Suggestion Box thread. But you know all these members will all have differing wants and needs. Herding cats, you know? cwillie wants discussions melded into questions. I would like to see it disappear off the face of the earth, and the melding of it into questions would have me doing my 12 step to break the AC addition real quick.
So we would all disagree about what we WANT. I myself, give me a block button and I am good to go. I love pressing the block buttons. POOF. Gone!
So that's it. If anyone is uninformed it is likely me. You want a pure OPINION (some don't, ha ha). I think that when the "other" AC was bought by a place for mom it went different. I think that it is now more or less a tool, an advertisement, a draw to just post ads to. Not a criticism. My brother used a service like this and absolutely LOVED it. It's like reverse mortgages, good for some and awful for others.
Anyway, don't have any other answers and don't like to take up space here with all this, but will answer if you pm me (public or private;) I am good either way.
Take care.
For some reason it got quite a bit of attention, even though in my mind it had nothing to do with caregiving. It wouldn't surprise me at all that they left the forum.
If I ever need to create a new identity like Golden did, I think that I will really confuse people by choosing the screen name, ‘The Three Faces of Eve.’ I am showing my age but I age but I love those old films! JoAnne Woodward was phenomenal in that movie.
Just kidding…I don’t know if everyone remembers those old films so they wouldn’t get that it was only a joke.
I had not known that, Luddite that I am. I thought they had access to our IPs unless we were clever enough to know how to hide them, and could therefore prevent duplicate accounts. Yesterday we all got locked out and several people made another account IN MINUTES.
Golden announced openly that she was golden, but coming in as nana as she couldn't get in as golden. Turned out no one could.
Anyway, at this point, I would say anyone can be anyone. Am I alvadeer or am I 27 other people also. Certainly easily could be if all it takes is making another email account, right. Heck, I will be anyone you care to make me; multiple personaliity whiz. I love it!
Yours is an excellent point.
I would say that sometimes people will jump to conclusions.
Wrong ones.
For instance, when Stacy and I are doing that thing we do, she always says to me "What's the matter with you".
You said it the other day and fully THREE people wrote me emails THAT DAY to say you were her.
So, join the happy cat herd, and on we go.
I never much liked liked discussions. The day they take cwillie's advise and meld it into questions is the day I leave. (Don't get too excited). Other than books I used to stayed . With Lea's illness I wanted to keep up on what's going on with her without bothering her with private messaging, so I ended up more in discussions. But I have to say, it hasn't been fun for me. So I think I will have a sudden epiphany and head back up to the high road. While they may have gone to kittens, it can be fun to herd cats! Right?
Don't worry about people calling you other people. Just enjoy.
That’s true because they are unsure about it. It’s confusing to us though, wondering if they do or don’t have Alzheimer’s disease.
They need a generic pick like miscellaneous! LOL
I didn't accuse them of being trolls, but I have been here for 4 years. This didn't used to happen.
My checking profiles for more information isn't unusual. TODAY I checked because it was mentioned right here, and I was curious about the reshuffling we are seeing of questions without there being a new response to them. I think we can ALL admit that's happening?
I read these questions: I had commented on these questions 10-15 days ago. There was no abuse of the OPs (they are all still there and you can see that for yourself) and abuse of OPs is in fact rare on AC.
I am not saying these are trolls.
I am wondering if they are real people at all.
It has been suggested over and over that this page is "different" recently since it was purchased. And it was ME, if you recall, who said these people were in fact buying into conspiracy theories.
Turns out, much as I may loathe having been wrong, I may have to rethink that.
I opened this without any accusations.
I am not making any accusations now.
I am saying that this is very unusual for this page.
And it is.
If we want to say, "well, they are interesting questions anyway, then we can do that, and just answer them as we always do". I am fine with that. As you know I pretty much answer EVERYONE.
It's my two cents. For what it's worth.
The profiles don’t tell the whole story. Some are wonderfully written, other times confusing and even blank if they have chosen to remain private.
Their question has been addressed and they have no desire to remain members
People have accused or harassed them or the answers were unkind or unhelpful so they have deleted their accounts
Checking profiles can sometimes be helpful when there isn't enough info given in the question to answer properly, but IMO it shouldn't be used as a way to judge the legitimacy of members - just because people chose to not fill out their profile or they have the same unresolved issues for a long period of time doesn't make them trolls
And old questions have always popped up when someone looking for a similar topic stumbles across them and they feel compelled to comment, it only takes one comment to bring an older post back to life. I believe it's something like 6 months of dormancy before threads are locked.
Fully FIVE have no account anymore.
Or at least when you try to access profile the "whoops kitten" pops up.
What might be explanations for this, does anyone know?
The only explanation I can think of is that they were never really real posters? Out of 10 questions it seems unlikely that five OPs would have left within 10 days of posting a desperate question.
Trying to figure this out.
I am wondering if any admins looking in would have an explanation for 1) why old questions are so often getting shuffled back in and 2) why there are no accounts for all these folks after only 15 or so days? Thanks a lot.
Iphone here. I’m one who has been locked out of my account.
I am amazed that people continue to answer posts from a year ago! But they probably aren’t looking at the date because AgingCare is choosing to rotate them to the front and newer posts are pushed back and sometimes don’t even surface again. Makes no sense!
I do find it annoying that older threads are popping up quite regularly now.
I have never understood the rotation of questions.
There are questions that are years old that pop up. The current questions are lost in the shuffle. It’s baffling.
Seems to me they would be wise to get a tech expert to look at it. Or even some high school kid might be able to fix it. Or, on the other hand maybe that is the problem.
Wonder when the IT staff last changed. Or maybe they started with a new consultant for this purpose? Whatever it is, it did not solve any problems only created more.