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My DH 'looked' for just an overnight aide to do the 8pm-8am shift to relieve him and his siblings. The cost was $35 an hour. $12K a month. For while she's ASLEEP. The NH they were looking at was $6500 a month.
Elder care is NOT a place you want to 'cheap out' on.
If Dad's hostile to the idea of moving and also has dementia, the decision really isn't his to make any longer.
So yes, in theory, renting out rooms or arranging care for board may work.
My own opinion is once a person is can no longer independantly arrange this themselves, you need a very attentive family member or a very capable (paid) Manager to run things. Sick leave, days off, all must be covered.
Once a person cannot be left home alone or there are behavoural issues affecting care, the balance can tip from 'aging in place' to 'not coping at home'. Then the big issue of a care home comes up. This is when *needs* outweigh *wants*, especially when sense & insight is lacking.
No-one wants to sell their home. They worked so hard to buy it. They feel comfortable there. I get that. The fact remains, they need a NEW home. One that suits their level of health, mobility & cognition issues. Call it *The Downsize*.
I would suggest getting an up to date needs assessment for Dad. What ADLs (activities of daily living) does he need? What about evening/night? Then armed with that, really think about whether care at home will work. Trial it as Plan A - but also start working on Plan B.
Regarding Medicaid (not Medicare)... rules vary by state but in most states it only pays for LTC, which needs to be medically assessed by a doctor. Your father then has to also qualify financially. I strongly recommend you consult with a Medicaid planner for your state. You sound like you are assuming he won't qualify but if the only assets he has is a house and SS, he very well might. In most states there is a 5-yr lookback period on the financial application. This means that whoever is managing his finances had better do it correctly lest they inadvertently disqualify him for Medicaid. Again, educate yourself: all info is online on his county's website, usually found in the Department of Health and Human Services, or Social Services.
I recommend having a solid, attorney drafted/approved contract in place that addresses compensation and how it is paid, you will need to pay an hourly or salaried wage, the hours expected to work daily, weekly, monthly and vacation time. You want to address the caregivers responsibilities; daily, weekly, monthly and what happens with a termination of employment, whatever the cause is, be it dismissal, death, firing, etc. Get it notarized so everyone signing knows it's a legally binding document.
Best of luck, this is a tough situation for many seniors.