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We are both vaccinated.
My mother is having trouble figuring out who I am.
She lives with ENOUGH terror. If I can let her get a glimpse of a familiar face, I’m going to do it. Not in other spaces in her facility. But, in her room? Yep.
I am by no means an anti-masker! But seriously! Both mom and friend are vaccinated! Either you believe the vaccine will protect you or you don't! And if you don't believe it will protect you, then why bother jumping through hoops to get it?
Your mom doesn't have Covid. She has a cough. It could be a cold; hell, it could be allergies, since the pollen this year is out of control! You did not make mom sick! How this doctor could even put that on you is a disgrace! And why on Earth is he giving her antibiotics? Has she tested positive for an infection? You say mom is at the end - and I am truly sorry, you have my deepest sympathies - so what exactly does this doctor hope to accomplish at this point? Isn't it better for mom to have some friendly, familiar loving faces around her that she can see, and not some masked "strangers" that might scare her or cause her agitation?
I think so long as your friend is following the protocol and masking up entering and leaving the hospital, so as not to expose any other patients, let the masks come off around mom, and DO NOT feel guilty about it! You have done nothing wrong.
How about "Mom is sick & I feel sad" ? Is that it?
It's OK to feel sad about that.
Did you cause your mom's illness?
Can you cure her illness?
Can you control her what's happening to her?
If the answer is no, what exactly are your feeling guilty about. If every imperfect choice leads to guilt, your expectations are way out of line. No one can be a perfect caregiver. Instead of trying to be an “A” caregiver, be more of a “B” person. Accept what you can't control.
The right thing to do is to love her, advocate for her proper care, and cherish these final days with her.
PS: if her doctor expects her to keep her mask on, he apparently has little knowledge of AD.
At this point in your mom's life, focus on the good and try to worry less. Your mom had the happiness of seeing her friend, and that's worth more than anything. Nothing you do in terms of decision-making is really going to make a huge difference in the end of her life, but happy times seeing friends are priceless.
Self-imposed guilt does no one any good and hurts only you, so you have my permission to stop feeling it.
I hope your mom feels better soon. Know that none of this is your fault.