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Two weeks before Mom passed she closed her eyes and would not get out of bed. A week later she lost her ability to swallow so Hospice was called in. She passed 6 days later. The comfort in it all was Mom knew where she was going after death. I know she is whole, pain free and with her family who passed before her.
Be easy on you. Tell her all the things you've wanted to say. Ask her, if she's awake, if there's anything she'd like to say or tell to family members or friends. Surround her with photos of family and dear friends. Read her favorite books.
Give her alone time. Many people do not pass until they are alone.
I had "easy" when it came to my mom's passing. While she was sinking in her health and slept in a hospital bed in the living room, hospice, based on her vitals, thought she'd last for many months. One day, after a rousing game of Rummy with me and my two sisters, I put her to bed and she never woke up. She passed three days later.
I hope peace come to your mother and to you. *hugs to you*
I was one of the caregivers, a nurse my entire career. In hospitals for me, but most care is for elders as the young leave hospitals quickly. Retired now many years but I so loved my work.
Sitting this vigil is difficult. I hope that Mom is in hospice and you are getting good help with dealing with what you both are enduring: at least some solid advice and information. If your Mom is still accepting even minimal fluids this can prolong the process considerably, often around a month. If she is currently not accepting food or fluid you may be near the end.
One might think that there is a sort of a "relief" ahead in that you have done the best you could, and that your Mom is released from further loss and suffering, but that may not be the case. Your life has been tightly bound to her in these years. The loss will be difficult and I have no answer but time's healing.
Again, I am so sorry for all you are both going through.