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Oh good heavens, the chore of clearing out the old homestead of "stuff" [as George Carlin would call it]. At first I thought my parent's house would be easy, nope it was the opposite. Lot of file drawers and a ton of 3-ring binders to go through. Lot of photos to gather up. Then the issue of what to keep, what to donate, what to toss.
Then I had to tackle my Dad's workshop. I did hire someone to help me, as Dad would keep stuff up in the ceiling like drain pipes, lumber, fencing, you name it... the basement look like an annex of Home Depot.
I won't go into the water leak in the basement every time it rained... lost a lot of sleep over that !!
It's been over year since the house sold, and my family room still has the hoarder decor. I just need to get myself into gear and donate that stuff. But I am still trying to find my energy :(
Same as others, he was organized and took great care of everything. 100 years of stuff - great grandfather's hunting and fishing gear, furniture, cookware, jewelry, his things from childhood, old personal items and so many pictures. Old newspaper clippings from the War, saved by his grandmother. The whole family history really. He had such respect for his family and their things. And was so proud that he always had whatever item you needed.
Also he was a woodworker. His shop was full of wood and tools and the house was full of his creations.
It all made me deeply sad as I respected all that stuff and those values too. To get rid of it seemed like dismantling the whole family. And it seemed like his spirit was there, sometimes in the most trivial items. I couldn't do it at all for about a year. It was hard to let go. But even harder to think of maintaining all that stuff.
In the end some things were kept and distributed between family members, we gave some things to charity and we had a big auction with the rest. Everything sold.
It is a great relief to have it over with. But I'm still coming to terms with it many months later. I wrote a goodbye letter to the house - it is for sale now. I can't watch that auction show on TV. And I have been going through my own things - cleaning out closets, etc. The picture project is coming - digital will happen! I resolve to spare others from these tasks, as much as possible!
I am decluttering prior to my father’s passing. Things he never uses (or even had an idea existed in the home) like sticky tupperware, jewelry, cds (“who needs new technology when radios work just fine” direct quote from dad : )
On the other hand, I’ve discovered letters from the 1800s and the hospital receipt from when I was born $1500 (what a bargain.)
My mother kept lots of stuff from her aunts and parents and in laws. For all of you...have faith, drink lots of coffee...and have a little fun while you wade through the project.
I came away with....why would anyone do this to the next generation?...just way to much junk and stuff!!! Keep and pass on the best and throw and donate the rest!
If one hasn't been there, it's hard to believe how hard this job is; physically, emotionally, and spiritually draining.
I'm currently clearing up 2 big houses at once. I don't have any help, so I'm doing it alone.
As you say, it's 80+ years of keeping literally everything that was ever bought, borrowed, given to, touched... even longer than 80 years cause I'm finding stuff belonging to my grandparents that my dad had kept so I guess we are talking of 100+ years (gasp). The amount of unusable and unimaginable things I found it's just mindblowing. But also things totally unexpected, that make you stop and shake your head in disbelief; sometimes smiling, sometimes crying.
I have started at the beginning of September and I'm still just scratching the surface, but yes, I'm definitely doing the room by room thing, one room at a time.
I have set 5 consecutive hours per week and I feel this is the best way for me. I know it doesn't seem much but I feel more productive and I work faster if I know it's just that time.
Before starting I found a great post by GardenArtist here on this forum (which is the reason I found you!) and it really saved me. For anyone going through this, is the Top Answer in this post: https://www.agingcare.com/questions/talk-with-mom-about-clearing-out-house-430106.htm
I especially found useful her tips n.4 and n.6. They've been life savers for me.
Hugging you all.
Just a thought - if there is someone in your family willing to do it - it can be time consuming. But that way everyone gets a copy.
Through a connection we got a construction site size dumpster cheap - I never dreamed we’d make a dent in it - let alone almost fill it.
I felt bad - tossing so many things but then three different men, in three different pick-up trucks showed up and asked if they could go through the dumpster. It was kinda weird - but in the long run I was glad someone was gonna do something will all that stuff.
Just yesterday I went through several drawers and cupboards and filled a large flexi garbage bag with stuff I will never use, is expired, or is completely useless. What was I thinking when I stashed those things? Likely it was my mothers voice saying “don’t throw that away - it could be used for something”.
I swore when we moved here eight years ago I wouldn’t save a bunch of crap - like I had in my old house - only to have to toss it when we moved here.
Old habits die hard, I guess.
Other than that, so many brand new beautiful clothes, which he was putting off wearing until that Special Moment, Lol! And I won't need to purchase cleaning products, sponges, TP, or Paper Towels for quite some time, Lol! Slowly and bit by bit, it's all disappearing, and we will soon be down to picture albums, family memorabilia, jewelry, and guns, all these too will slowly be given to family members, accept for only a couple of boxes my husband wishes to keep.
There's still an old trunk full of old family "skeletons", up in our garden shed, but that will be up to my husband to decide what to do with. I'm so over housing another person's belongings, I want my house back!
Good for you for getting it Almost done, we're right behind you! It's a great feeling!
I agree with "putting things to use." It's something I want to be mindful of in my own life now and going forward.