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So often the solution is money. If you had more money, you could hire caregivers. You and your kind son need a break. You shouldn’t be stripped of your lives.
Then the person listening to you receives that negativity, and now they have a dose of negativity, and on it goes in various forms to the next person listening…
Protect your positive self.
If you live with someone who is negative it is even worse.
I am sorry that you are in this situation.
I have told people directly that I do not want to listen to the same negative thing a million times over. If they don’t stop, I walk away.
Care to share a bit more info on your situation?
I mean it seriously, because sometimes those who say a particular person is always only negative, end up themselves always only negative and incapable of saying positive things.
A few weeks ago, her kids (DH, YS and OB) had her put in Hospice care. She is actively dying now and the time to talk and try to get some kind of closure from her is not going to happen.
YS hugged me a couple weeks ago and said "All I want from mom before she dies is for her to say she had a good life and very blessed and to quit the constant negativity and blame".
It's not going to happen.
I've said this before and I'll say it again: If you cannot serve as a good example, you might be serving as a horrible warning.
I like 'venting's' comment. Just straight out call her on it.
Since she eats dinnerr with us every night I have made a rule that we don't talk politics or news from the Anger-tainment channels. If she ignores this I keep redirecting the conversation. Or, my husband will whip out his phone and show her funny things from tiktok, Insta or YouTube. I just won't tolerate it from her. Sometimes she remembers this boundary and other times not. I always defend it because she's never going to change.