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This isn’t as difficult as it might seem. On some truly terrible days - parent in hospital days, that kind of thing - sometimes all I could manage was to sniff some flowers as I walked by. Or read a sci-fi or fantasy book in bed before I go to sleep. Or treat myself to a fancy smoothie from the store.
It reminds me to seek out and grab onto any good moment on any given type of day. Sometimes those little moments really really help bring me to life
I just listened to Downtown. I liked it. I often stop downtown on my way home from work in the evening for a little while before my day really starts at home.
Maybe:
’Downtown’ by Petula Clark
Try looking out for one that speaks to you - has a good up beat, and fills you with joy. Something energizing that has a positive message.
Once you’ve found it, you can listen to it anytime for free on youtube.
― Prussian General Karl von Clausewitz, Vom Kriege, 1832
“Dear Lord, please handle this day for me. I can’t do it by myself.”
Nothing is impossible. The word itself says " I'm possible".
I will write it in my journal
This is a hard journey that I never expected...my Mum died 1 year and 8 months ago, then I find out Dad has early dementia...it's been an emotional roller coaster ride mourning my Mum while dealing with all the drama my Dad created partly from grief and partly from brain changes from dementia..
The best of my life."
I enjoy alliterations, and thought about "Life 2B Lived" or "Just a Jr. High Moment" but I hope these bring a smile and ideas for your new catch phrase. Remember to take care of yourself, too!
I'm printing this on a little card and posting it where I can remember it whenever I start a project.
I remember discussions had when I was working, and consulting the assigning attorney about how much "perfection" was required for the client to achieve the results it wanted. I also recall discussions with others working at the time, to get their insights. Men especially had good advice to offer; they were way ahead of me (and other women) on the corporate ladder.
Thanks for sharing this valuable approach.
She told me this : perfection is the enemy of Good.
It was not at all about caregiving but it made me think that too often we try to do more than our best, we try to make everything perfect... But at the end we just burn out which is not good!
For the morning brings more wisdom than the evening.
(from an old Russian fairy tale)
Do something that makes you happy everyday until it becomes a habit.
That is the quote I think about when I've had it for the day... then, go to bed, and even if the problem is still there tomorrow, I'm rested and will have more patience in the morning.
Many times near the end of the day, my Mom sees something or hears something on TV that triggers a memory or "issue" and she gets focused on something and wants to start a serious conversation which never ends well... I have to repeat a bunch of times, and/or she gets argumentative.
So, I finally started using a new approach, saying in a light-hearted tone.... Remember, it's after 5, no more thinking today :) Let's just enjoy the show !
We'll talk in the morning. And then we just watch something entertaining, funny, etc. And in the morning, she doesn't remember whatever it was that was bothering her.
I am now going to copy it in my journal!
Excellent! You just described how I was in the past! You probably described half of this forum.
* try to please everyone
* say yes when I'like saying no
* ignore my needs and my limits
* compare myself to others and juge myself
* wait to be exhausted to rest
* force myself to do what others expect me to do
* underestimate or ignore my emotions
* pretend to be fine when I am not
* wait for someone else to make me happy
"Nothing will ever get better...it will only get different"
It has helped me to accept the changes as I go forward.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end. John Lennon
I'm just getting around to reading this thread. The one about we'll burn that bridge when we get to it reminded me of a funny story. Years ago I heard that quote somewhere, liked it, and started using it. Recently one of my sons told me that he was in college before he realized the original saying was cross that bridge when we get to it.