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I had my son at 39 after being told we couldn't have kids on our own, and being an older mother was good for me. He has kept me feeling younger. He motivates me to work hard to stay healthy so I can be here to see him grow up.
Also at this age, I know who I am, what I want, and I don't care what people think anymore. This is a big deal after a lifetime of worrying what other people think. I do what I want, wear what I want, and say what I want. (of course I'm still polite lol). I used to plaster myself with makeup when I was young. I never felt pretty enough without it. After having my son I didn't have time for that at first, and I got used to not wearing it. Now I LIKE my face without it and I never could say that before.
Being older just changes your priorities.
So, those are some positive things about being older, although it's probably more in general than being related to caregiving.
And even though I'm looking my age more and sometimes it's like, "Wow, when did I get so old?", I always say getting older sure beats the alternative. It's privelege denied to many!
I really think we need good discussions and ideas about how to improve our lives as caregivers.
with the punches and more accepting when things change and not to sweat the small stuff . I hope as I get even older, that these lessons will help me to focus on what I can do and not be grouchy because of what I can’t do. I want to make the best of the time I have left.
I am 58.
I struggled forever to have a child. We adopted a beautiful baby girl.
I discovered that I was pregnant and gave birth at 40 years old. So, we have two miracle babies!
I’m 67.
Very inspiring . !
Often, we think we can prolong lives by taking better care of LO, of course they deserve it and we all strive to maintain better quality of life for them, but, realizing there is nothing that can be done with progressive disease with no cure frees me in some ways.
With unapologetic selfishness which really is self preservation I do everything to maintain my quality of life as well.
Sounds comfy! 😊
Turning 40 made me feel old enough to drop out of society’s competition. I felt too old to be sexy. Too old to be trendy. Too old to play sports competitively - now I play what I call “old fart beer league”. And I found all of that incredibly and delightfully liberating.
I laugh more easily. I shed anger more quickly. I care less about what others think. I take more chances. I speak out more. I surround myself with things and people that hold meaning to me, not because they’re stylish or popular. I embrace nature more. I bestow my wisdom upon anyone silly enough to give me an opening. (like you, poor reader)
Seems I’ve run out of rats’ buttocks to give about the small stuff. And if I can’t laugh at it, I try to learn from it.
Independence is fabulous! I am glad that you are embracing ‘YOU.’
I have two grown daughters but no grandchildren. If I did have them, I know that I would adore them. You are truly blessed.
I think the relationship between a grandparent and grandchild is so special! It’s totally different than a parent and child.
My best memories of my parents are those of seeing them with my children. They had a very special bond.
My MIL often made me giggle when she would refer to her ‘young and stupid days.’ We’ve all had those!
I had no idea how much my heart would grow!
He’s 3 and a half now. A joy!
Midkid used to call her grandson a little raccoon. My family has taken on this name for our precious guy, as well. He NEVER runs out of energy, and gets in a whole lot of mischief!
Also, I am THAT grandmother. I am sooo quick to pull out my phone:“Would you like to see a picture of my grandson”? 😂🤣😂🤣
Being older helped me land a great job 12 years ago, as being seasoned in my profession was exactly what my new boss wanted. I was 64 at the time, my boss was 75. We would joke we would only retire if the time came where we needed Uber to drive us back and forth from work :)
I also did volunteer work at a local regional hospital for over 20 years. Covid stopped the older volunteers from coming in, too much of a risk. It is still a risk. I do miss my desk mate as we spent our down time comparing caregiving notes, that was so positive knowing we both were dealing with the same issues.
Another thing I realize, back when I was polite to elders, I see younger people doing the same to me. I need to remind myself I am now an "elder" so enjoy it.
Remember the standing joke of an elder driving in the left lane, going 20 mph under the speed limit, and the left blinker blinking.... well, that person is now my hubby.... [sigh]. Maybe he needs to do old fashioned hand signals, that arm would quickly come back into after the turn.
I love being able to see better now than when I was younger due to having cataract surgery. I wore glasses for years and now I no longer need them. Most people after surgery will still need reading glasses but my eye surgeon worked her magic and I don’t even need reading glasses!
I like being an empty nester! I don’t understand why people miss their kids living at home. We still see our children often enough.
I like not caring as much about what other people think. I cared much more when I was younger.
What’s your favorite thing about being older? Is it retirement? Traveling? Something simple? Something funny? Please share.