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She was always a thin woman but she became a skeleton with flesh on it as she approached her end. She didn’t even weigh 100 pounds.
I have never gotten that image out of my mind.
The body, when its preparing for transition, looks emaciated in some cases. A person approaching death will stop eating and drinking some days or even weeks prior.
I'm sorry that I don't have much feedback on this. I'm sorry that your FIL took the harder road to his transition, but please take comfort in knowing that he is finally at peace. Your FIL did what he felt was best for himself. He made his own decisions even to the dire end.
I, too, thought that image would haunt me, but a month later I couldn't even conjure that image in my mind. You'll forget, too.
She looked awful, and I was not prepared for that. Lealonnie--I wish YB had done that with mother, her mouth was wide open and it looked so scary. I asked him "can't we close her mouth? YS is going to absolutely freak out". No, we couldn't and honestly, that image is haunting me.
I swear the soul takes up 'space'. She looked tiny, and while she was small, she was not that small. IDK----the mortuary did a beautiful job with her hair and makeup and my OS and I dressed her for burial. That helped me to deal with the shock of how awful she looked right after her death.
I'm glad, for her sake, that she's gone. but typing this is making my BP rise...I guess I am not as 'over it' as I thought.
I've seen quite a few people right after their passing, but mother's was the hardest. She looked like she was in pain....but I know she passed quickly and painlessly.
I have been working on focusing less on the end and more on the life she had. At some point I hope those last hours will recede and I will be at peace. I suspect it will just take time. Please take care.
Geaton, I bawled my way through Yad Vashem. I couldn't believe that one human could treat another so reprehensibly, you have to be a demon to behold and participate in that kind of behavior. To me, it is solid proof that the Jews are Gods chosen people, otherwise they wouldn't have been targeted for annihilation, that failed.
Funky, a dear friend was blessed with a visitation from her husband too. It gave her such comfort and peace, what a tremendous blessing for all who receive it.
However when my husband(who was under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life, yet they couldn't get his pain under control especially at the end, and he hadn't eaten for 41 days and nothing to drink for over 25 days,)died, he too looked quite skeletal, and not at all like the man I loved and married 26 years earlier.
It was not how I wanted to remember him by, and thankfully 2 1/2 months later in the very early morning hours of Dec. 6th 2020(the morning after my husbands birthday)I was awakened by a pressure that was going down my entire left side as I was sleeping on my right side. I couldn't figure out what was going on, and as I turned to see, my husbands face was right in front of mine. He was younger, healthy, tan and best of all, smiling. It was a gift for sure, as I now knew that he was ok.
So now when and if the picture of him on his death bed and in the body bag tries to creep in, I immediately replace it with his smiling healthy face that came to visit me that Dec. morning.