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I prayed that God take Mom home. She was so frail and had aged with this Dementia. The person she had been was gone and what was left was a shell. Her eyes showed there was no more Margaret. I always thought "Maybe I am suppose to learn something here and until I do, Mom won't be released". If it was Patience, I didn't learn anything. Someone said years ago concerning my Aunt with ALZ, "the soul has already left the body" Just think, its hovering there just waiting for the body to die.
Caregivers matter too and don't deserve to have their desperate needs discarded.
My parents lived into their 90s. They, particularly my father, were able to say they wished for peace and rest and were exhausted with life. When they went I felt nothing but relief for them, that they didn't have to bear the loss upon loss that aging is, that I didn't have to be afraid for them.
I am 80. My family is all aware that I feel I have been very lucky in my life, that I have done all I wished to do, that I am ready. I hope there will be no grief. My children are entering their 60s.
There is no reason to grieve lives well lived, and as a nurse I do know that there are many reasons to grieve losses, and witnessing losses for those we love, finally their minds and all that makes them the individuals they are (were).
I don't fear death whatsoever. We all go there. As an atheist I have no fears of afterlives. But I do fear suffering, for I have witnessed it in all manner of endings.
We on Forum have witnessed many hoping for the death of their loved ones, indeed PRAYING for the end, and seldom out of anger or frustration.
Everyone has a breaking point, a last nerve, a feeling of no way out of situation..
And someone could be saying it because watching someone you love coming to the end of their life can be the most difficult challenge every and the wish is to end the suffering.
No matter how or why or who its said to its not about the person who is dying, its about the suffering the person wishing is trying to cope with.
If you are someone suffering this- sending you a hug- and if you need to talk to someone you are free to message me to share and process this for your own wellbeing.
XO
Theie's nothing to research about it -- it's human nature.