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We have to make our own happiness - make the best of what we have. No one else can do that for us, even your daughter, had she lived. You are fortunate that your son and family that live close help you a lot. I am sorry you are estranged from one of your other sons. I was at one point with one son and his wife. Life happens and it goes on.
Is your glass half full or half empty?
What frustrated me was that I only had maybe 10 minutes of 1 to 1 face-time with either grand-daughter. They were too glued to their Smartphones, the same with their Mom.
Sig-other just couldn't believe it when he took them sight-seeing in Washington DC, they went by subway.... did they look out the windows to view the city? Of course not, they couldn't lift their heads off their chests.
So, you are not alone when it comes to communications with grand-children. It's a different world for them then it was for us with our own grandparents. Oh how I loved visiting my grandparents.... it was once a year for each set as both sets lived out-of-state. Both lived on farms, and for me growing up in the city, this was a delight having the rooster crow in the morning :)
Oh, teenagers or young adults don't want their grandparents connecting with them on Facebook. Text or drop a short e-mail instead, if possible. And don't worry if they don't answer back. The Kardashians may be doing something very important or the Jenner girl may have a new line of make-up :P
My second GS has a Dad involved so I don't see him as much. Don't think we will be as close either as he grows up. You have to also understand that a 17 yr old has a life. She is probably involved with school and all that goes with it. Then it maybe college. Be glad she does what she does for you.
I have a friend who feels its never her. At this moment I am waiting for an apology for a nasty VM she left me. It has to do with misinformation on her part. I have called, went to VM that was FULL. Then I texted, I had no idea what she was talking about. No reply.
What was the dispute about? You lived together for a number of years. Was it all one sided? Or did you contribute to the problem? If there was something you did, then apologize. And please don't say "but you did this or if u hadn't done that" then the apology means nothing. Own up to what you did only. I know you lived together but as the children aged, did you have too much to say about how the parents were raising them? Even though we didn't live together, my MIL would ignore me when I told her NO to something she wanted to give my daughter when I didn't want her to have it. DH had an Aunt that one time put carrots on my daughters plate and then told her to eat them. I told her R did not like carrots cooked and she didn't need to eat them. The woman sat there and argued with me.
I would send a letter with the apology then its their move. If they don't come around, then you just need to let it go. As the grandkids age and become independent of the parents, maybe they will come back.
But.
#1 It does not follow that you would have been happy.
#2 It does not follow that you cannot change anything about your life now to help you feel differently.
Emily, being 20, is, I'm sure and I hope, a busy young woman with a full schedule. But as she matures and makes more decisions for herself, it may well be that she will want to get in touch. I think you're wise not to push it, but leave the door open. You never know.
I think if you'd wanted to say more about what led to the rupture with your son and daughter in law you would have done, so I won't ask.
I'm a little younger than you but I too sometimes find it difficult to engage myself in anything that's anything like as interesting or important to me as my children are. But the fact that they're of consuming interest to us does not mean the feeling is reciprocated! So I've thought for a long time that it is crucial not to build your social or emotional life on your offspring.
Living independently, as I'd see it, rather than alone, and having done for some years, what sort of thing do you like to occupy your time with? What are your interests? What sort of people do you "click" with?