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As a first act with your FIL, you must inform him that one of the conditions of him being in your home is to wear his hearing aids and keep them in the whole day.
Lealonnie1 gave the same advice I would, so please consider it. It's your house, your marriage, your life. When you married her you never agreed to be her father's retirement plan. If you would have known it would be like this, you would have said NO. So, say NO now. He will only get worse with time.
We all make mistakes. You need to help FIL find a nice senior apartment for himself now so he can have autonomy and live however he sees fit to live, freeing you up to do that very thing in YOUR OWN HOME. Have a chat with your wife and get on the same page about this. Then find a nice place for dad and help him move out. Go visit him frequently and do whatever you can for him THERE in the new digs. Take your life back. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to any of us, my friend, so to live in misery any more is a waste of precious time. You've done enough for him already and helped him regain his strength to be able to be self sufficient now. I'm sure the plan was not to take him in FOREVER. And if it was, plans change.
Otherwise, I have no idea how you learn to cope with a nearly deaf man who blasts the tv set all day while lying on his bum expecting to be waited on hand and foot. Start with an appointment with an Audiologist for a nice set of hearing aides. And order yourself earplugs by the case. That's what I do....my husband is so loud it's like he's talking thru a megaphone and bowling in the kitchen every morning! 🙄