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dad passed away at home I was by his bedside holding his hand. I felt so dissempowered with mum since I live a stone's throw from the hospital but still was unable to be by her side. I know there are many many families who have been/are now in similar situations and I feek greatly for you all. This virus has created huge casualties in its wake.
My least favorite thing on the forum, after the squabbling siblings, are the numbers of times we see the word "guilt". Unless you are a felon who knowingly did harm to others and now wants to reform, guilt is really the wrong word. I think it is more grief. Grief that you didn't know; grief for your loss. It does sound to me as though the attempt was to keep you spared. Because of Covid I had no idea of my brother's decline, and even the day they called the ambulance to take him to hospital he was telling me "I think it's just the flu like I get every year; if they would just leave me be I would get over it".
Time will heal you. I think deep in your heart you do know that even with our human limitations, you did it as right as you were able. Again, so sorry for your grief.
I think we often use the word "guilt" as a shorthand for a bunch of much more complex emotions. I think it's useful to name those emotions.
You feel the loss of your dear mom.
You feel regret that you couldn't be with her in the end, because of this d@mned virus.
You feel disappointment and maybe anger that she hid her condition from you.
You feel a sense of disempowerment that you were not able to restore her to health and youth.
You feel conflicted because you wonder if sending her to the hospital helped or hurt.
Only you can tell if breaking it down like this helps you over the hump. Sometimes we need some grief couseling to be able to see clearly that there is some inevitability in the decline and death of our loved ones and that are not so powerful as our strong emotions make us out to be.
(((((Hugs)))))))