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She passed peacefully, in her own bed. That was a privilege you provided for her.
It is very early in your grief so give yourself a break as well. Noone should be blaming you and you didn’t let anyone down.
I hope your guilt abates each day. Sorry for your loss.
Very often, the last days of someone's life tend to be "dramatic". This had probably happened umpteen times before, right? This time was no different, you did what you usually did and this time, gram got to go "home".
You have NOTHING to feel guilty about and less to feel "sorry" for.
You did 3 years of CG, bless your heart. Give Gram the respect and love she would want, not guilt and sadness over what "might have happened". Many of us hope for such a peaceful passing.
The woman had a lot of health problems. Your family is grieving but don't feel this was your fault. Its what it is. Her time to go.
I think one of the problems of being a caregiver to somebody so vulnerable for such a long time is that you begin to believe that if you try hard enough you can keep her going forever. Then, when the inevitable does happen, you start with the "if only"s - if I'd done this, if we'd decided that, if we'd thought about doing the other...
It's the middle of the night. Grandma falls. You get up and you check that she is okay, and you do 'running repairs' to get her through to morning. Hadn't this happened before, and been fine? Suppose you'd taken her to the ER. Suppose you'd kept her up while you (already knackered and half asleep) stripped the bed and remade it. Suppose suppose suppose...
If not this time, then next time the outcome would have been just the same. Please think about all of the loving things you did do, and not about those impossible If Onlys.
It's very early days, and feeling better will take time. I wish you and your family comfort. Hugs.