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I've had beautiful dreams about my Mom and special thoughts enter my head sometimes but I just don't believe my Mom or anyone else I loved and lost would ever come and visit me. My Mom was a true Christian woman and I do believe she is with God and I will see her again someday and I have to be happy with that.
If you believe in this and are sure that your loved ones are visiting you from a good and holy place, then it's all good. But just be careful what you wish for.
My dad passed away when I was 7 after a 9 month illness. Back in those days children weren’t allowed in hospitals. Dad died at about 9:30pm on a Friday night at a VA hospital in East Orange NJ. I remember my mom saying a few minutes before the hospital called that “no news was good news” as she knew my dad was very ill but that they believed he may last another day.
After my mom told me I went out to sit on our fire escape via the kichen window in our second floor apartment . I remember saying “Daddy, daddy, why did you leave me?” & right after I said that, I very clearly heard a voice that said “don’t worry, M, I will never leave you”. To this day he has been my Guardian Angel & guided me and saved me from many precarious situations throughout my life, especially the stupid things I did as a teenager.
My mom passed in April 2013 & I’ve been looking for a sign from her, a dream, something. My brother said he has a certain Bluejay that hangs around his house since she passed. Now this winter there has been a solo Bluejay around but I haven’t felt it was my mom.
I am still looking for that sign, or dream or anything for almost 5 years. There was no unfinished business pending for her & I though. The only thing was that I know she hated us leaving her in the NH for the 14 months she was there. So maybe after she resolves her anger and forgives me, my sign will come.
I totally believe that loved ones do send signs and the recipient needs to be open to them for them to occur. But who really knows? But my dad speaking to me the night he passed was real, no doubt.
I love to here about these types of post passing visits. I think they are special.
I think it is a blessing to have seen the other side because now I know life here on earth is not the end, and that we are spiritual beings in physical forms.
When my mother was very sick and close to dying, my father appeared to her. I was standing at her bed, and she kept pointing toward the foot of her bed and said your father is standing there. I looked and saw nothing, so I kept telling her there was no one there. Then in the mirror, I saw him walking out of the room through the window. I suppose he wanted to show me that I was wrong.
Years ago, I have also witnessed a spirit take possession of a woman's body. After she fell from a roof, she broke her foot and hurt her back, and could not sit up or walk. I won't go into details of how or why here. The next day, after much praying by a close friend of the woman, a spirit took over her body. She got up and walked over to a chair and started talking in a man's voice. What was said I can't share here. Then the spirit left her body. She collapsed right on the spot and had to be carried back to bed.
Another thing, this morning I noticed the remote for the TV had the battery cover off the back, I did find the cover. That was strange. Had to be Dad as when he was alive he liked to fuss with changing batteries, and with that process losing or misplacing the battery covers on so many different things.... [sigh]
I have had that mantel clock now for over a year and never winded it up as I didn't want the chimes to scare the cats. Plus Dad didn't have the clock winded while he lived in senior living.
It was no special day, no anniversary or anyone's birthday. And I had rummaged around that book case on and off during the year, so if there was a chime left in the clock it would have rung long before now.
Maybe my late Dad was telling me that he had met up with my late cat Sara who had passed the day before.
I would love for something like that to happen to me, just so I knew that my Mom was around me but I think sometimes when you are looking for signs you won't find them. I do see feathers everywhere I go now but maybe I am just noticing them more now, who knows.
I pulled the bookcase away from the wall, to see if a mouse was hiding back there, nope. This afternoon I will take everything out of the bookcase and give the bookcase a really good cleaning. I know wood, even painted wood, plus books can adsorb odors, but you'd think those odors would be constant, not just every now and then.
Dad always had a great sense of humor, so maybe he is joking with me :)
I wish I had these experiences. I was writing to some friends that I wanted a sign from my dad. While typing out these emails, I get a text from an unknown number with "I love you." I have never received a spam text like this before. Part of me thought is this a sign from my dad? Or just a coincidence? I know others have found coins and feathers, but I don't think I have personally felt my dad's presence.
Plus late the day before there was that unusual smell once again at my Dad's old bookcase where I have what is left of his books and knick knacks. Thus, it probably was Dad's hand trying to help me with the drapes.
I will have to see if there is a pattern.
I've mixed feelings about visitations/signs from loved ones who passed. I guess it's my religious upbringing, but I have had several dreams that have made me think. Shortly after my Mom died I had one where she, my late Father and late brother were all together. What made it an unusual dream for me was my Dad died when I was four and up to that point, I had never ever dreamt of him. I felt like it was a sign, telling me they were all with each other.
I have also heard that seeing feathers is a sign and since my Mom died I am always seeing feathers on my path. So who knows............
My grandmother swore her last husband (she had 3 over the course of her lifetime) visited her at night, very frequently after he died. He would sit on her bed and just "be there" - no conversation or anything. It was comforting for her.
When my father died, I wasn't sure I wanted to receive any "signs" that he was around, due to the wreck he made of our lives. I didn't get anything from him at all after he died - he was just gone.
When Mom died a year ago, I looked and looked for signs that she was watching over me. I didn't see anything for a while - then one day I realized that I had been seeing blue dragonflies since her passing - something I rarely saw before. Now I was seeing them everywhere I went. If I was near water (Mom's favorite place to be), there would be a dragonfly either hovering near me, sitting on my vehicle or IN my vehicle with me - and it would always be blue (her favorite color). It has happened repeatedly this summer. We just returned from taking Mom's ashes "home" and placing them where she wanted them. I thought since we were near water, I would see a blue dragonfly, signifying she was there with us, but I didn't. We left and continued on up farther to some of her favorite places, one of which was a waterfall. There was a HUGE blue dragonfly, hovering over and around the falls, flying right up to us and then away again, back to the waterfall, back to us.....I'm sure it was Mom letting us know she was ok and was happy with us for following her wishes (despite the church saying we couldn't put her ashes where we did - they didn't "approve" of it), and that she is ok where she is now. We spent the rest of the weekend doing things that she loved - picking rocks on the lakeshore, looking for "pretties" to take home; picking wild blueberries; hiking to her favorite waterfall where she and Dad spent a lot of time as a young couple; and just spending time together as a family.
I've had Crazy Vivid dreams, once of funeral for my Dad (but Nothing like the one we did have), where the "men" were rolling my Dad's casket towards this great big open aired church, and the top of Dad's casket popped open, and Dad, NAKED, sat up struggling to get out, and wanting water to drink! I helped him out, got him covered up and over to a bench, and got him water, then the men wanted him to get back in the casket, and Me arguing with them that he wasn't dead, "he's not dead"! It was then that I woke up startled, very upset and told my husband all about it, and I've never forgotten all the details of that particular dream. Very weird and strange!
In those 5 long months, she would speak to him constantly, and I believed her, that she was directly in communications with him. She would say she recieved a buzzing in her ear, 1 buzz for yes, 2 buzzes for no.
This went on, seeing her murmuring to him all the time. We also chatted about me wanting her to show us some sign that she was alright and with him once she passed, and she said she would. I later found out that all 6 of us kids, had all had simular conversation, Lol!
The morning she passed, all six of us were with her, all had our hands on her, it was nice, very sad of course, but comforting.
Once all the immediate post death details were completed, signing forms, and the transporting of her body to the funeral home, all 6 of us agreed, that we would take the rest of this day to grieve, to rest up, and begin her funeral plans the next day.
The 4 of us girls, decided to take all of our Mom's flowers and plants to our Dad's graveside, and once we had them arranged on his headstone, we were amazed by this most Beautiful cloud formation. It appeared up on the cemetary hillside, with 2 huge surfboard shaped clouds, one leaning into the other, and pretty sun rays filtering down from the sky, Spectacular! We all got the goosies, and were all in tears. No verbal communication between us was nessesary.
Now if this wasn't their way of telling us that they were All right, Together, and headed for Heaven, then I don't know what! It was an incredible experience!