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Thanks guys, you are absolutely right, we chatted a little, but yeah I'm done, no thoughts or feelings from him as an apology or even that he did anything wrong.
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No, Nacy, he isn't interested in apologizing to you or taking any responsibility. He is into twisting you into a pretzel that has no idea of beginning or end. He is interested in telling you that you "have a chip on shoulder" that you "misunderstood" that you "heard him wrong" that "he never said" that you are "too sensitive" and I could go on. They have a set of these things on some memory bank in their brains.
Glad that you chose to talk and glad that you chose to cut it off. The best you EVER get from these odd jerks is some sort of apology that isn't one: such as the classic "I am sorry that you are upset". Which means YOU own your upset; THEY had nothing to do with it.
It's all a mind game. They are into it. They love it.
Gaslighting 101.
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@Alva

So basically you're saying Anxietynacy's male friend is doing some gaslighting mansplainin'. No one woman has time for that nonsense.

Nacy should tell this guy to go pound sand.
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Nacy, I think Golden’s Facebook quote down this thread would be very appropriate here although I would replace the word ‘energy’ with the words ‘time or interest’. I think you have plenty of energy but why on Earth would you waste your time trying to educate a Troglodyte?
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@Peasuep

You're right. It's not worth the energy or as you say 'time or interest' to explain to some people.

I see it like this. Bees don't bother trying to explain to flies why honey tastes better than sh*t.

Some folks are just not worth the time or effort.
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